When a narcissist knows that you know who they really are

What happens when an narcissist knows that you know who they really are? An narcissist knows you know when you go silent and stop explaining, complaining or trying to fix things. When your words become fiverr slower and more precise and you no longer rush to be understood. The urgency disappears, you are no longer pleading for fairness, clarity or emotional repair. That loss of urgency is terrifying to them because it means that confusion tactics no longer work on you. When an narcissist knows you see the truth, they don't try to be better, no. They just stop trying to be nice. They realize the mask they have been wearing has slipped for good and instead of picking it up and fixing it, they kick it across the room. They get nasty because they feel like they have nothing left again from being kind. If you no longer believe their lies, they have no reason to play the hero anymore. They will rather be the villain in your life than do the hard work of looking in a mirror. They start to treat your knowledge of them like a personal attack and they strike back with everything they have. They go from being cold to being absolutely cruel. They start to use your secrets and your pain as weapons to keep you quiet. They want to make you so miserable and confuse that you forget the truth you have found. To them, your clarity is a threat that needs to be neutralized. They do not want to change because change is hard and scary. You know that and they would much rather watch you suffer than feel a moment of their own guilt or remorse. They decide that if they cannot be the person you loved, they will be the person you fear forever. They want to make sure you are so broken by their words that you do not have the strength to stand up and say who they really are. This shift happens because they would rather destroy their relationship, then fix themselves. When you stop reacting to their old tricks, they double down on the meanness to see if they can still get a rise out of you. That is exactly what they do. But you can save yourself from further abuse. We call it post-separation abuse. How? By becoming a person, no narcissist can stand. How can you do that? We'll join my workshop. I'm doing on Jan 25th and I'll be covering all of that in two hours. Book your spot right now. Link is in the bio.