God bless the day people stop seeing women as objects. #muslimtiktok #islam #modesty #hijab #fypツ

The addiction to porn and fear of intimacy in Muslim countries are actually two sides of the same coin, and it all starts with how we talk about women in Islam. We have been taught that women should cover themselves up for men so that they can control their sexual desires. When hijab and modesty was never actually about men, it was about a woman's relationship to God. It's about willing to sacrifice the validation that you're going to gain from society for the validation of God. It is about not associating her beauty and how much compliment she's going to get from people with her worth. That is the true essence of modesty in hijab. But when we teach that the purpose of the hijab is to control men's behavior, we ignore the real issue, which is the mindset that sexualizes and objectifies women. And I'm talking about small children, young boys and girls that have been taught that boys and girls shouldn't talk to each other, you shouldn't look at each other, it's how we can only do that until after marriage. And you teach this to a child that doesn't even know what sex is or marriage. This develops two different mindset. For girls, mostly, it develops a mindset that guys are a danger. You shouldn't look at them, you shouldn't do anything with them, it's haram. So even the body and the nervous system rejects the idea of being intimate with that person. Because she has been taught that she as a woman, her curves, her hair, everything is shameful. That is going to create problems later on with her sexual life. And for a guy, most of the time, it's going to create that mindset that, okay, the girl is only there to serve me for my sexual tendencies. She's only there for us to create a family together, for us to have children, for us to mate later on. They stop seeing her as an actual human being and more so as an object that it's dependent on her whether she's covered or not for him to control his urges. The problem was never whether the woman is covered or not because if that was the case, hijabis and niqabis wouldn't be raped or molested, but yet they are. Problem is seeing the woman as something that should be covered so that I as a man can control my urges. And so long we keep excusing the man's behavior and blaming it on the woman instead, we will never truly develop as a Muslim community and this problem of porn addiction and fear of intimacy is just going to continue.