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The psychological folk of today is about the theory of apige, which is the "baba" of the "baba" of the "baba" of the psychology and which will explain a lot of things to you. So, this theory of apige, it explains how experiences with whom you care about your childhood. So, I don't know, your father, your mother, a parent, a figure of care, necessarily of the childhood, mold the way you love after you grow up. So, you don't understand what you love anymore, you think you love less. If you don't even know how to love, the theory of apige will explain a little better these things. So, it's true, it's very good. This theory is about a "baba" that was a researcher who observed that children who lived in orphanages so they didn't have a caretaker, close to them. They could be very careful, so they were limited, they were small, they had basic, guaranteed necessities, but they were sad, they were apathetic. And then he proposed the idea, he raised the apige's idea that we are humans, we have a basic basic need of affection. We born with the need of love, we feel safe, we have a caretaker with us. It's instinctive, it's us. And then he says that there are four main types of affection. And the way that they happen in their childhood is going to mold them, so let's say about the way you relate to other people and develop affection in relationships when you grow up. And then the four types of affection. The first one that apige is safe would be more and more of all, but basically you were a child who had needs of attention, needs of attention, so if you would agree, someone would agree. If you were crying, someone would come to you, if you were afraid of something, someone would come to comfort you. So, you had a caretaker, very present in childhood, who responded with affection, with caretaker, and this teaches to that person that love is safe, that the other person will be there for you, that everything is good to relate to other people. So, ideally, a person who lived with apige safe in childhood, disinvolves good relations and has no big difficulty when we think about affection in adult life. The second type is apige anxious, which is the person who had apige safe in childhood is a love that was, like, very constant. So, that caretaker in childhood, if the times were there, sometimes they didn't, it was more when he wanted to, you know? Sometimes it was very present, but sometimes it ignored him. It was a Russian mountain, so love, silence, confusion. And this child learns that to have love, you need to force yourself to be loved, you know? You need to be grateful, you need to be rude, you need to insist on things. Then you grow up and become an adult who, in the background, die of fear that you are abandoned. Because you never get up when the other person gets up, so you always have to be in the form of doing what that person gives you attention. Then, at the end, who learned that love is asleep, nothing. Living trying to deserve what should already be guaranteed, you know? Thirdly, the type of apige would be evitative apige. And in this case, in childhood, the caretaker was distant, or then rejected the effect of fact. I cried with this. I felt it. You are exaggerating, right? Not all of this. And this child learns that to express emotion to the faces of people. So, if you close it, it gets independent very well. And then, in adult life, it is a source of intimacy. So, I thought it would help the weak, and that it connects to other people, it is almost dangerous, you know? And the last type of apige would be an unorganized apige. In my opinion, this is the most complicated, the most difficult. Because the child grew up with fear of the basic effect that she had there. Because sometimes, the caretaker figure was the one who loved it, but at the same time, it was a joke. So, it was unpredictable, it was aggressive. You are that other person, but you are afraid of that other person. A figure with two weight, you know? Which occupies two different places. As a result, an adult who tends to be sabotaged, who, like, is confused, is that the effect, but at the same time, you face the effect of you, you know? Because there is this relationship, it's good, but it's bad. Many probably, if you watched this video, thought, "Wow, I identify with this type of effect." And many probably, in the end, we have four great types and the majority of people are in one of these types. But I need to say that it's not only your fault that you learned to love, how you love it. But what you can do is do things from this now that you understand. How? Therapy. It won't change the past, somehow. What happened to you and what happened. The way you were careful, we won't be able to do it now. But therapy can teach you to sometimes change and not repeat this pattern. But this time, you have your relationships and try to understand how much of your childhood is still reverberated in a way you love it today. And please, don't forget. The apex is built, it was already built in your childhood, but it is also reconstructed, so don't understand it as a rule. Things need to be like you learned what they are. That's it.