Some people will want to take credit for your downfall. Don’t let them! #motivation #dating #insecurity #relationships

You have to understand that some people take pride in their ability to hurt you or to mentally affect you in a negative way or to traumatize you so deeply that you are never the same. You see, for some people, that is a sense of achievement. They find pride in the fact that they have an ability to have that level of impact on another person. It doesn't matter if that impact is negative or positive, just knowing that they've been able to affect a person in such a significant way gives them a sense of importance. I'm going to use the example of dating because I think it best articulates my point. But oftentimes when you're dating someone, they know your worth sometimes quicker than you do. And when someone perceives you as having a lot of worth, if they are insecure, that will breed resentment, that will breed really negative emotions within them. Because they know that deep down, they're really insignificant in your life, right? They know that deep down, they are punching. You are way out of their league and that will breed insecurity. And so because they know that you already have so much worth, they know that they're not going to be able to have an impact on you in a positive way, right? So they were opt to have an impact on you in a negative way, okay? Imagine a guy dating a woman or vice versa who is highly accomplished, right? Who has, you know, accolades upon accolades, that will make a person feel very insecure. They will be aware of the fact that they can't really bring anything to the table. They can't really add anything to you. They can't have a positive or significant positive impact on your life. So how else can they have impact? How else can they feel important? Let me have a negative impact on your life. Just like you will have people that want to take credit for your accomplishments, there are also people who want to take credit for your demise. There are people who will relish in the fact that they have impeded your success, that they have impeded the trajectory of your life. And this is why sometimes you might notice that when you're on your way out of a relationship, your significant avar will try to do the most traumatising thing to you. They will try to do things that are so obviously wrong because they're trying to have a lasting impact on you. They're trying to leave their mark on your life because they know that when you leave you're actually going to flourish and thrive. So they want to try and impede that, they want to try and hold you back. They want to have some form of impact because they know they can't touch you in that positive way. So they try to touch you in that negative way. I say all of that to say this, do not allow a man or a woman to destroy you. Do not allow another person to walk around planet earth with the smogness of knowing that they played a part in your demise. Because one thing I've learnt is that people will see that you're a star before you see that you're a star. Because of that, some people will purposely treat you bad because they want to be the person that knocks you down a peg. That would be an achievement to them, knocking down someone they perceive or hold so highly. Right? That's an achievement. They're always going to be able to look at you and say, "Oh yeah, I knocked you down a peg. I humbled her." Don't ever let anybody walk around earth with that smogness. And this is why I say if somebody hurts you, they've already given you one blow. But don't let them get a second blow by actually impacting your life in a significant way. When somebody hurts you, use that pain, you transform it and use it to elevate and let your enemies what you thrive.