@wellieno #accountability #dysfunctional #fyp #shadowwork #healing

A woman on here said that as you get older, you start to realize how many women are accepting a toxic relationship. I would argue the majority of women do that. And not only that, women will take advice from other women in toxic relationships before they take advice from a woman who is single and known to be single. I have watched friends take advice from women abusive relationships. I have watched friends take advice. Actually, they're all abusive because calling a toxic doesn't change if it's abusive. The reason why it's toxic is because it's abusive. It's a mostly abusive sometimes physically abusive. They will sit there and have all the time in the world for the women who are getting beat up for the women who are getting ignored. For the women who are getting belittled by the family, the man everybody involved, but let you be single and start talking. It will look like you're crazy because you don't have the qualifications. You have no idea how glad I am that we are having this conversation. I've been talking about this a lot as of recently. And I've noticed that, of course, when this subject of accountability and women and toxic choices and behaviors and patterns, when that comes up, it gets crickets. But if you post some toxic, simple shit, you know, your shit could likely go viral. And one of the things that I've observed over the years is that women really just love to feed the delusions of other women. And I think it allows them to live in that space of toxicity without having to address the issues or do any of the inner work that's needed in order to change. So it's easier to just surround yourself with other life-minded individuals who you guys can keep sharing these toxic ass stories about what this nigga did. And I'm so sick of this girl. And I'm about to leave, fuck him. You guys want to stay on that hamster wheel of emotion because it makes you feel good to be in it together. When you have one woman who's healthy and she's not participating in that type of shit, and then you have another woman who's unhealthy and then their friends, the frequencies are not going to align. It's the same with couples, right? I made a post on Thursday other day talking about a lot of couples staying long-term marriages and relationships because they share the same toxic frequency. So they're both liars, they're both dysfunctional, they're both cheaters, whatever the circumstances are, it's the same with women. You're not gonna have a healed version of a woman be able to maintain a friendship with the toxic woman because they are not like-minded. So women intentionally seek out and choose other women that will reinforce the mindset that they want to maintain. And they will reject other women who are basically trying to hold them accountable and hold them to a higher standard. I really think that's why you see certain types of content be very successful. And the content that truly calls women out to develop their character is kind of slowly coming to the surface. We're transitioning now, but this has been the case. And I do want us to start having these conversations 'cause I'm sick of this shit. You all talk about men and decentering men and everything else, but you can't fucking do that without being with honest with yourself about your need for validation and attention from men, your attachment to toxicity, your attachment to drama. These are things that will keep you on a hamster wheel with men. And then before you know, 20 years have passed, three kids later, and you still talking about the same shit.