My condolences to everyone grieving the unseen, the almosts, the could’ve beens. It still counts. It still deserves to be acknowledged, it still deserves to be felt

You're grieving and you don't know it because you're grieving for things that socially we don't always acknowledge that we should grieve for There's a poem, but she says I lost something he didn't run off with all my stuff and he don't even know he got it Sometimes when we come out of relationships, especially domestic violence situations or situations that were very dramatic Sometimes when we leave those situations, we don't get to leave it all parts of us and you've lost something And you don't want to be honest with yourself about what you lost, which is why you don't tell anybody around you And I don't think it's that you're doing it on purpose. I don't think you know how to articulate what you lost But the side effects of what you lost has put you in a place where you don't believe that something better is possible And that's where hopelessness comes from because when I can't see an end result, what's the purpose? you're grieving And grief is not an emotion that we can perform through, which is why you don't want to go to church You don't want to do anything you don't want to show up because if this was the death of like a person People would give you grace and they would give you time off from work and they would say you don't have to show up But because nobody can see what died. They're treating me as if everything is normal And that can be a very lonely and isolating place because only you know There's something died