How to get over someone and finally move on #relationshipadvice #heartbreaktips #breakupadvice #moveon #MentalHealth

If you really want to get over somebody, I'm going to need you to do these three things. Try all three for at least 21 days and then come back and fucking tell me how you're feeling. The first one, no you don't fucking need closure, no you don't need to contact them again, you need to go through withdrawal. You had somebody, now you don't, your brain is going, oh my god, I need them but you're not safe because they were in your life, you're safe because you have you. The person that hurt you isn't going to be the person that heals you. And if you're hoping that them giving you closure is going to help you move on, you're just avoiding facing reality. And hope is actually also releasing dopamine. The second thing, take the fucking shine off of them. Instead of they were so amazing, they were the level of my life, I'm never going to meet anyone like them, what makes them so fucking special that they ignored you? They dismissed you, they discredited you, they didn't want a relationship in the way that you did. Baby, this isn't the love of your life, this is just a lesson in something that seems super fucking familiar from childhood. And the last thing, this one's kind of counterintuitive. Every time you think of them, don't try to get rid of the thoughts. What you're doing is you're telling your brain, this must be really important if we're trying to get rid of it. So instead, they come to your mind, hey, given everything I've been through, of course it would make sense that I missed this person, we shared a relationship or time together. Hold some goddamn compassion for yourself and stop treating yourself like an asshole just because it ended.