You don’t have to hate someone to know it’s over. #divorce #divorcetok

My husband isn't a bad guy. I just don't want to be married to him anymore. I've been checked out for years. And now that I want a divorce, he suddenly wants to change. It was a message that I received yesterday. And this kind of scenario is actually a lot more common than you think. You hold on and you try and you wait and you hope that things will get better. But by the time he finally takes you seriously, you're already checked out. Here's what I want you to know if you're in that place. You don't need someone to be a villain for your feelings to be valid. You're allowed to end a relationship that just doesn't feel aligned. You can appreciate who they are and still know they're not your person anymore. If you've been carrying the weight of resentment and loneliness and disappointment, that's just not something a sudden, I'll change, can fix. Feeling a relationship takes two people to want it. Not one person who's finally scared to lose it. So if you've already emotionally disconnected, please stop feeling guilty. You are not breaking your family. You're freeing yourself and your kids. From a life that's half lived. You deserve a relationship that feels like home. Not one that feels like holding your breath. Hope dies last. At some point you have to let go of the potential, the what ifs and look at the facts and ask yourself. If this is what the reality is and it's never gonna change, is this what I want? Is this enough? If the answer is no, then you know what you got to do.