Stop blaming, start solving. 'When you do this, it pisses me off' vs. 'When this happens between us, it makes me feel hurt.' Which one fosters understanding? #CommunicationTips #RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfImprovement #ConflictResolution

if we say it in a different way and we say, you know, when this when this happened, when this happened, again, taking, making it a universal topic, making the problem a problem, when this happens between us, it really hurts me. You're removing the pointing the finger. When this happens between us, it makes me feel hurt. I feel emotional pain. Now, now just compare the two. When you do this, it pisses me off versus when this happens between us. It makes me feel hurt, to feel emotional pain. That instantaneously puts that person in a position to want to problem solve it. Why?