grandir avec des parents divorcés, c’est facile #divorce #enfance #confianceensoi

With divorcing parents, it's very easy. You live one week with your dad, one week with your mom, you learn to fight and fight in a sacadeau and here's 20 years later, it's impossible to install a few times to feel the desire to run after three months of practice. We tell you that divorcing children is very fast. Except that adapting and going well, it's not the same thing. It feels like what it's adapting to this year? You learn to learn humor of each parent to not add attention, you learn not to mention the other, you learn to exist in two different pieces. And that's what he said to you. And I told my parents that he was well-being, they were very well-deserved. In truth, maybe it's your father, the conflict level between parents, to this number one factor that determines the impact. A divorce, sorry, it's at least less of a structure, like marriage, but it doesn't fit at all. Because, in truth, the thing that breaks into a family is that it's not just the routine. But it's the internal model of relationship. Your brain is ready to register, okay, people we love, it's up to them. The situation is stable, it's up to them. And they build a map of the world with all that. That, but it's the attachment style. And statistically, children have to separate, develop more often in attachment, saying, "Okay, or avoid it." Also, it gives you an adult that says, "It's better to reject it in every message we answer." And avoid it, it gives you someone who gets the relationship, who becomes too intense, just so that it becomes really good. Like, you recognize someone from good and in my opinion without a reason. You just want to take your affairs and disappear. As if you were waiting for the moment, where it's stuck in all directions, then you take the future. Well, all this is great, but what do we do now? The first thing is to name the family. Not to infantilize, but rather to stop asking you why you're weird in relation. It's not weird. It has an illogical integrity, which has the meaning of this. The problem is that you always turn with this logicial when you have 10-20 or 32-plus things, and it's a little counter-intuitive, it's not to look for getting the attachment, but rather to look for the training. An attachment style has been modified by relational experiences, ensuring that they don't compete for a mystical revelation. In general, it means staying in relationships where people do what they say, even when it's uncomfortable to make confidence. Regressively, they work together, it's detrimental. And the third thing, sorry, the most annoying thing to hear, but if you have a house that comes back in a lot of relationships, a repulsive subject, it's excellent. And, of course, the process isn't because you're broken. In fact, it could be useful, but because certain things we were integrated before TV to understand and take it all alone, it takes three times more time. In short, a divorce or a cliché family, it's not a live condination to chaotic relationships. It's just a less practical point than others, like trying to build a house on a flat surface, either it's feasible, it's just a little more work of foundation. And before we leave with the last thing, the fact that you watch this video until the end, it's not annoying anymore. Most of the people prefer not to look at it. So take care of yourself, and I say thank you very much. See you next time. Ciao.