You're not a bad person for thinking they're doing the exact BAD thing that they're actually doing...😳 #ResilientAF #lies #gaslighting #morals #covertnarcissist

Narcissists will lie to you in a way that sets you up to feel like a bad person for questioning the lie. They weaponize your morality. They use it against you because they know that you don't want to be the person who doubt someone's pain or question someone's tragedy or second guesses someone's past trauma. So they hide behind things that you don't feel okay within yourself challenging. And that's why a lot of times people hear stories and think, well, how the fuck could you believe that? It sounds ridiculous. But the thing is, they don't necessarily always need a lie that sounds believable. They just need something that makes you feel evil for doubting. Right? When it's time to take accountability, they'll throw in things like illnesses or emergencies or deaths. Things that make you look at yourself and say, why the fuck what I think they were lying about that? What kind of person am I to think that? What if it's real? I'm fucking disgusting for even going there. Even if there are inconsistencies, holes in the stories, things that don't quite make sense and your gut feels something is off, your brain still goes, well, no one would fake that. If you do take the risk and challenge it, then they gaslight you. Why the fuck would I make something like that up? What kind of person do you think I am? What kind of person are you for thinking I would make that up? Then reinforces what you were already thinking in your head that you're a bad person for thinking they would even lie about that. So the next time it happens, instead of calling out the inconsistencies, you shut it down and you correct yourself because your morality overrides the logic. A lot of times the things are like really extreme situations. And so you double down on shaming yourself or thinking that it's fake. What kind of fucking person am I for thinking that they're actually pretending that they're going to themselves just to manipulate me? There must be something wrong with me for thinking that. It's like they recruit your morality onto their team instead of yours and then use it to train you to gaslight yourself. That's the flip. That's the distraction because now you're not focusing on their behavior. You're focusing on judging your own thoughts. Your awareness turns into guilt, your suspicion turns into shame. Your built in protective instinct turns into something that you feel like a bad person for having and feeling because narcissists don't just plant seeds of doubt into reality. They plant seeds of doubt into you and they grow into fucking weeds. As their manipulation, their projection, their gaslighting, all of it gets more extreme and the longer that it goes on, the more you continue to turn inward trying to prove to not only them, but prove to yourself that you're not the kind of person that would ever think that someone would do the exact fucking thing that they're doing. That's how it gets to the point where even when they say completely outlandish, unbelievable bullshit, even when you have that feeling, you end up giving them the benefit of the doubt and they don't have to prove shit because your morality is stepping in and policing you on their behalf. Well, I don't know who needs to hear this, but you know that really extreme, traumatic, painful thing that they used in a moment where the timing just felt off and you felt like a fucked up person for thinking that they lied about it, you're not a bad person. Your gut was right, they lied about that shit.