I’ve never heard anyone talk about this. Also, I have seen one guy do this too, so not saying this happens to women only, but from my experience, I mostly see it happen with women. #dating #ambitiouswomen #girlhood #feminineenergy #datingtipsforwomen

If you're a woman with a naturally elevated image, so say you have traits or a lifestyle that other people aspire to have, rushing to prove that you are harmless can collapse the very thing that made people drown to you. I've seen this happen over and over again. I don't know why, but very beautiful, very successful women have this need to compensate for how intimidating or too much or too perfect they seem. So as soon as they get the chance, they start overexposing their insecurities, their self deprecating part, and they do that way too early. Emphasis on the way too early, because obviously I'm not saying be a cold stone wall. But the issue here is that you are rushing to reveal this part of you from a place of "please don't put me on a pedestal, please don't think that I'm too perfect, please don't feel threatened by me" because it gives you a sense of comfort to remove these expectations from yourself. But I've seen it over and over and over again, that it backfires. When this thing is done prematurely, instead of making you more lovable, it creates status confusion. The other person's brain reads you in the beginning as rare and aspirational, and then you start to aggressively undermine your image before, and this is the important part, before trust, intimacy, and respect are properly established. So then of course the other person's brain unconsciously goes like, wait was I wrong? Is she actually not that special like why she's trying so hard to lower herself, which creates incoherence and humans hate incoherence? All I'm trying to say is, please, please do not prematurely dismantle your own mystique simply because you are uncomfortable being perceived as powerful.