People just don't want to choose you, but also they don't want to lose you #podcast #women #relationships #men #Love

I read a quote today that honestly explained so much. It said, "Some people don't want to lose you, but they also don't choose you because they don't want to do what it actually takes to keep you." And man, that one unlocked something in me. I had to read it three times because that's exactly what's happening. When you're stuck in that weird in-between place with someone, they don't want you to move on, but they don't want to step up either. They don't want you with anyone else, but they won't give you any actual clarity on what you two are. They don't want to be the bad guy in the story, but they'll happily be the reason you're crying yourself to sleep every other night. That's not love. Let's stop calling that love. That's a possession mixed with laziness. It's wanting the benefits of having you without any of the responsibility of actually having you. They want to keep you close enough to not lose, but far enough that they don't have to commit. They want to know you'd still pick up if they called at 2am, but they don't want to be the reason you're smiling at your phone at 2pm. That's not a gray area. That's a selfish one. The day you finally realize this is the day something shifts permanently. You stop asking yourself, do they actually care about me? Because the answer stops mattering. When you start asking the real question, the one that actually changes things. Why am I still staying somewhere I'm I'm clearly not being chosen.