Have you healed to fix your relationship? ❤️‍🩹

If you don't like something your boyfriend's doing and like bothers you or makes you feel uncomfortable, you can change that. You don't even need to tell him to change. Yeah, I went into this to see because there was this period of time where every time I went out with my boyfriend, we'd go out in social settings. He wouldn't hang out with me. He would always be like talking to new people, talking to our other friends, and like we'd be separated the whole time. And I was like, does he not like me? Does he not want to hang out with me? Does he think I'm boring and not fun in social settings? Like, what the fuck? I was like, insecurities and triggers were coming up. And then instead of getting mad at him and being like, why aren't you hanging out with me? You're not like me? Like, can you hang out with me more? Because that's lame. I was like, no, I don't want to do that. I went into the trigger. Saw where it was coming from. It was coming from a wound when I was little. My mom used to always just like hang out with random dudes to go on dates because she was like trying to find like a new husband. So she was like going on a lot of dates and then as a kid, I took on the belief of like, my mom would rather hang out with random guys and hang out with me. And so then that was showing up in my everyday life today where my boyfriend would rather talk to strangers and our other friends instead of hanging out with me. So then when I released it, cried that shit out. Then when I would go out, I would be having so much fun that I forgot to even hang out with my boyfriend too. Like, I wasn't even like noticing him. I was just so into the conversations I was having so much fun. And then he came up to me and was like, why aren't you hanging out with me? Why aren't you like around me? What's going on? And he started coming to me. I flipped that shit. I loved it. It felt like I had a fucking super power. So I do this with everything now. If something bothers me instead of going to him and making it his problem and being like, why are you doing this? This hurts my feelings. Obviously there's certain things that of course you need to tell them that. But I'm talking about like things where they're not purposely trying to hurt you. Not toxic shit. But now I just go into it and I try. I heal it. See where it came from and that's like fucking magic. Either I don't care anymore or he changes. It's beautiful.