Now comes the part where you stop dragging his voice, his guilt, his chaos, and his version of you into your new life. Remember this: you don’t owe loyalty to the man who only loved you when you were easy to control. #MamaTones #ToxicRelationshipRecovery #EmotionalAbuseAwareness #LeavingAToxicRelationship #HealingAfterAbuse

things to remember after being abused by a toxic man the healing will feel ugly at first but that doesn't mean you're losing here are the seven things to remember after being abused by a toxic man one you're not weak because you stayed you were slowly trained to doubt yourself not all at once little by little fight by fight silent treatment by silent treatment and every time you spoke up he twisted it every time you cried he acted annoyed every time you tried to explain your pain he made you feel dramatic that was never love that was him conditioning you too you're allowed to miss him and still know he was poison that part confuses most women you think if he hurt me so badly why did I miss him because abuse does not erase attachment sometimes it strengthens it your body is still searching for the version of him that showed up just enough to keep you hooked three he did not break your confidence by accident he studied what made you shine then aimed right at it like a bullseye your looks your voice your friends your dreams your softness your independence even your family that was never random that was a target four healing will feel boring as hell at first peace feel strange after chaos when you're used to begging proving explaining crying waiting surviving quiet can feel unsafe let it be quiet anyway five you don't owe him one more conversation you explained you cried you begged you broke down he heard you he just didn't care until you started leaving six supplementicizing the man who damaged you the good days were not proof of love they were the bait the smile after the cruelty the apology after the damage the soft moment after he made you question your entire reality this is how the loop keeps you stuck and seven the woman you were before him is not gone she's buried under all that exhaustion under the fear under the shame that was never yours to carry but she's still in there and every time you choose yourself she comes back a little louder so now you're not starting over you're returning yourself and this time you're not begging anymore to see your worth stay here i'm mama tones follow for more baddie