Check your motives. We people pleasers don’t like to hear this, but it’s true!!! I’ve struggled with people pleasing my entire life. And I’ve discovered I’m far from alone. A lot of women are conditioned to please since we were young.. But there are so many layers. What’s your take on this? #wiredtolead #womenwholead #wifemomboss #lifelesson #peoplepleasing

I was on a flight, I'm from Nashville. And I was like, "Can I grab a cup of coffee before we land?" And she said, "Do you want cream?" I was like, "Yeah, little." She brings me back a coffee and it's half coffee, half cream. It was a cup of milk. And so I chugged the coffee and then I was like, "I'm gonna go to the restroom." And I said, "Can I get one more cup of coffee?" And I get out of my seat and my mind is going, "Tell her you don't want two creams." "Tell her you do not want two creams just to say one cream, please." Just say one cream, go to the bathroom. Just say one cream, just say one cream, go to the bathroom. I was like, "Oh, in the bathroom, just tell her one cream, just say one cream." It's not going to make a difference. She comes out and she's like, "Same way, I'm like, yeah, thank you." People pleasing is actually selfish. It's selfish in two ways. One is you're an empath and you don't want to feel someone else's bad feelings. And so it's about you. It's also selfish because you don't want to be disliked. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. If I'm disliked, I can't control the situation. This is coming from a fear-based place because I am not confident internally enough to say something that might make someone upset. I have a problem telling the difference between your emotions and my emotions.