Making time for nervous system regulation is part of work for a woman. Rest is not outside of work. Rest is part of work. For you cannot pour from an empty chalice… // And I know how privileged I am…Yet my life wasn’t always like this… far from it. I worked 70hrs a week then I was burned out and became homeless… These days I have to pinch myself in some moments to make sure I’m actually not dreaming because my reality is so dreamy! Feeling so lucky and blessed that these moments are part of my life… Thank you Creator. And thank you Me for doing all the inner work and purification of karma so that this gets to be the outer reflection of the inner……. #nervoussystemregulation #feminineenergy #rest #work #Science

One, the female nervous system was not even studied until the early 2000s and so all the information we have on our biology is from a male body. Two, when they did study our bodies, they found that the female nervous system regulates to oxytocin, not dopamine. So while males feel regulated and grounded in whole and getting things done and pushing and succeeding, women, female bodies feel grounded in whole and regulated through pleasure, through co-regulation, through connection, through relational dynamics, through touch, through beauty. Number three, and this is the kicker. Dopamine actually depletes oxytocin in the female body. Science found that the more female bodies push and run dopamine pathways, it depletes oxytocin, pleasure, love, connection. So if you are a woman who feels that the harder you try, the worse you feel, listen to this. It is so imperative for every woman and man to understand and prioritize replenishing oxytocin in the female body. And I've seen this so many times in myself and in my female clients, when you start to move from a dopamine pathway into oxytocin, the thing that you are going to head up against is shame. Because we've all culturally valued dopamine and success so much, men and women need to both understand that dopamine in excess in a female body is making us sick. It's making us crazy, it's making us feel disconnected and alone. The easiest way for a woman to start to shift out of dopamine and start to prioritize and habitualize oxytocin in pleasure in her body is with other women. We burn through the shame together, we can validate and relate and mirror each other in these new pathways. Or just sit in a cave for two hours and watch the song go down.