Relationships in real life are always so much more complex than what your charts can tell you. #relationshipastrology #astrologycompatibility #chineseastrology #enemyyear #birthchart

This DM a couple of days ago and let's talk about whether your relationship is doomed simply because the person you're interested in was born in an enemy year or a clash year compared to you. The simple answer is no but for those of you who actually want to be empowered through astrology let me explain why it's a no. There will always be a predictive element to astrology simply because we as humans do not like the unknown and so through these systems we are always trying to find concrete patterns that can predict what is likely to happen in our lives. However to truly become empowered through astrology or any spiritual medium requires you to look at your chart and instead of trying to find the answers externally you need to be reflecting and using your chart as a mirror. On a side note Chinese astrology has some translation issues where the terms that are used in English really make it sound really horrible. Like for example your enemy year they are literally not your enemies but it just means that there are clashes there are challenges that you can face and that's why through my studies and my content I'm always trying to debunk that if you will and to say that if I'm born in this year and my partner's born in an enemy or a clash year does that mean we're not compatible? That is pretty much the same thing as saying like I'm a Gemini and my partner is a liberal are we compatible? And I've always said that you cannot rely on astrology to tell you about compatibility. I have had so many stories of people that I actually know in my life who have gone into relationships and even marriages through checking their compatibility through astrology and they've ended up breaking up or getting divorced. Your charts can be so compatible on paper but that's on paper. How are you actually embodying your chart? What are your actual values? Where are you in life? Are you actually ready for a relationship? If all of those things are actually aligned for you then you can look at your chart and see okay if we have a clash what is the energy of that clash? Is one of us going to be more internal while there is more external? Does one of us have the tendency to be more expansive and philosophical while the other one has a tendency to be more refined and discerning? How do we accept each other for who we are and how do we actually work to harmonize our clashes? Because the thing is we might think that in romantic relationships having everything going smoothly and flowing well is like the goal but that is not the goal because we will always be pushed to grow and evolve in relationships and astrology simply gives us a mirror to see where that growth might be, where that discomfort or that tension might be. I might we find the words to articulate what we're going through and the tension or the pressure that we're feeling.