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The highest form of love will always be consideration. I'll take consideration over someone's feelings of love any day. Because consideration says, "I remember what matters most to you. I'm paying attention. I noticed that you were overwhelmed, so I already took care of it." That's loving someone as a verb. It's not mind-reading. It's not loving them from a place of anxiety. It's loving them from a place of thoughtfulness. People can feel when they're considered. And no, it doesn't mean tolerating mistreatment or staying in narcissistic relationships. We can consider ourselves and have a standard for how we know we deserve to be treated at the same time. But when we love someone, we intentionally think about how to make their life easier and meet their needs for connection and closeness. But we can't do that if we don't first learn about them and ask questions and get curious about their inner world. You're still going to have to tell the right person for you how you want to be loved. The only difference is the right person remembers. The wrong one doesn't.