What have you been told—or worried about—when it comes to divorce? Reese Witherspoon followed her mother’s advice: Protect yourself in case your spouse does not do what they promised. That is good advice. But money is not the only thing you need to think about. After years of handling divorces, here are five things I want you to remember: 1 Your spouse will probably want the same things you want—the house, the money, and time with the kids. Why? Because you built that life together. You may both want to keep the same parts of it. 2 They may use what they know about you—your fears, mistakes, and weak spots—to get what they want. Why? Divorce can make people act in ways you never expected. 3 Their idea of “fair” may be very different from yours. Why? You may not agree about what each person did, gave up, or deserves. 4 Pay attention to how they act when other people upset them. Why? People have patterns. The way they treat others during conflict may be the way they treat you—maybe even worse. 5 They may believe they are being reasonable and you are the unreasonable one. Why? It is hard to admit you are wrong when you feel hurt or angry. You cannot control how your spouse acts. But you can get clear about what you have, get strategic about what you want, and take the right steps before the conflict begins. Prepare now so you can leave on your terms—and Leave With More™.