Become deeply obsessed and invested in yourself and watch what happens.

The way to change your life is to become completely and utterly obsessed with yourself. Anytime you start thinking like, "Oh, if I had this specific person, my life would be better." "Oh, if I had this specific job, my life would be better." "Oh, if I had this amount of money, my life would be better." No, it's when you become obsessed with yourself. When you start loving yourself, that's what unconditional love is. It is loving yourself without all of the external things that you think are going to make you better. There's nothing that's going to make you better but you. When you really start to conceptualize that and really internalize that, that's when life changes. You start thinking of a specific person and you're like, "Dang, my life would be so much better with them." No, their life would be so much better with you. Start thinking that instead of the opposite. Okay, Dorissa, well, how do you love yourself? Will you love yourself by deluding yourself? It's going to feel fake at first, telling yourself that you are beautiful and you are loved and you are chosen. That's going to feel fake. It's going to feel uncomfortable, especially if you have not been saying that to yourself. But eventually, it's going to start to internalize. That's going to become your normal programming. Right now is your old programming, right? It's from childhood. It's from whatever someone told you along the line, like you're not worthy or you're not good enough. That's the programming you have right now. That's why you think that if you have a specific person or a job or this amount of money or whatever it is that you want, that's why you think that your life is going to be better. But it's actually the complete opposite. You can give yourself that now. If you could say, "I am chosen no matter what." No matter what, even with this job, this minimum wage job, I'm still chosen. Even with this birthmark on my face, I'm still chosen. Even with whatever circumstances you have in your life, you are still chosen, you are still loved. And when you can get that through your head, when you can really internalize it, your life changes.