This one is for every child who grew up asking why they weren’t worth choosing. Follow for more honest conversations ❤️ … #maturing #healing #emotionalintelligence

Nobody had to convince me to be a parent, to convince me to care for a child that I'll help bring into this fucking world. Nobody. So when I see people out here making excuses for these fucking deadbeats, this shit just mentally doesn't register in my brain. Family and friends at this motherfucker just normalizing it. Like, oh, he's just going through something, going through something? Do you realize that's not a fucking excuse for not showing up for your child? Do you realize every day parents go through shit every day? There's no option to this shit. There's no break guarantee. We do this shit because we have to. Not because we pick and choose what the fuck our battles are. I don't understand for the life of me how you can look at your child. 50% of your DNA and you still see them as an inconvenience. It doesn't work. Parents don't work for you right now because you got this job opportunity. Well, parents don't work for you right now because you want to run around with your friends. No doctor's appointments, no graduations, no field trips, no shit. You pick and choose what you want to do. Oh, and you know what blows me more? How y'all can meet a whole 'nother woman? It just run off, start a whole 'nother family. And now you're the nigga that get it. Now you're the daddy who understood you're the consistent one. The president, the one who cares. When you're just abandon the whole, like, what are we doing? And I think the old I get, the more I realize this has nothing to fucking do with the deadbeats. It ain't about the person who left. That's the sad part. It ain't about you. It's the fact that you left that child with a fucking question of why am I not good enough? Why don't you want me? Every day it follows 'em all the way into adulthood. This shit does not disappear at 15, 16, 18 years old. Into relationships and emerges every time they look in the fucking mirror they ask themselves this question. Now they all hear loving on people just to be chosen by them. The wrong fucking people. They aren't chasing some success to validate who they are as a person. Do you not see the damage you've done? And I think the saddest part for me, it's all because the person who was supposed to choose them first, chose themselves. You understand how selfish that is? But as a parent, choosing your child should always be as easy as choosing your self. I don't understand it.