Don’t let your sense of justice keep you stuck! You deserve to heal, you deserve to be happy, you deserve to move on no matter how unfair it was!!💞 love yew xxxx #fyp #neurodivergent #autism #adhd

One of the reasons why it's so hard to get over heartbreak as a neurodivergent person is because of the sense of justice that we have So I'm gonna give you tips on how to survive and get through that because when you feel like you've gone through something unfair It can keep you stuck in that place a lot longer than you need to be Firstly, you're gonna need to stop trying to prove yourself. I find that people would rather keep their wound open To show that someone hurt them rather than heal that wound. You've got the proof. You've got the screenshots You've got the timeline Presenting them is not going to change what happened to you instead of asking who was right and who was wrong You need to be asking yourself what do I need to heal just this and healing are not actually the same thing Even though when something unjust happens to you. It feels like you need justice Justice asked for proof, but healing asked for peace like you at some point Have to get to I want to heal and I want to I want to move forward. I want to heal rather than I want to stay here and show Everyone what happened to me. Do you know what I mean secondly, you have to accept that unfair and final can coexist The hardest truth is that something can be completely unfair and that can be the ending It's so it doesn't make sense to the brain because the natural processing of the brain is that you fix things that are broken Like that is automatic human instinct is to fix something that's gone wrong. You have to accept that sometimes Things are going to go unresolved and that is a horrible thing to think about in the moment But it's not actually as horrible to go through when you go through it You don't have to forgive them. You don't have to understand but you can still make peace with the fact that it's Ended thirdly you have to redirect the investigation towards yourself All that energy that you're spending analyzing them and the situation and what they said and what happened Direct it direct 10% of it even towards yourself. Trust me. You're for better and also that 10% will grow over time What did you ignore what boundary did you drop? What did you say that you didn't mean or what did you not say that you did mean not to blame yourself But just to reclaim your urgency and think about what you can do going forward and what you can give to yourself going forward Justice is not just about what they did wrong But it's also about what you're not going to accept next time like you can reflect on the relationship and think okay This person did that to me. I'm not letting anybody do that to me again Thirdly name what you actually need you keep replaying the breakup because you want fairness Okay, but fairness is not one thing. Do you want an apology? Do you want an explanation? Do you want to say something and get something off your chest that you never got to say? You know, do you do you want to just be listen to you and be believed pick one? You can't get close shut close Hmm you can't get close off from somebody who won't give it But you can give yourself the version of justice that's most accessible to you at that time Also, locally sometimes it's just it gives you clarity to just think okay, I'm all right I just wish I had did it at a once you know what you want it kind of makes it easier to move on from it Because you can accept that you're not gonna get it like even if you are gonna get it. It makes it easier to accept that you don't have it Because you know what it is that you want and then lastly right the ending that they won't give you Then you really write that conversation like write the questions that you have that they're never gonna answer Write down the things that you want to say that you're never going to get to tell them like Put it down and then put it down It doesn't matter if it's real like yes Obviously they're not here with you in the moment while you're writing this stuff down or while you're reading it out loud But you're giving your brain an ending to the pattern. He doesn't matter if it's real It will help you psychologically just do it your brain just needs a final page a final chapter of the story Once you can imagine something your brain doesn't know the difference between what's out there and what's in here That's why anxiety and regret and all that stuff feel so real because it doesn't know the difference if you do that I swear it genuinely does feel healing guys I love you and I'm so sorry that whoever hurt your feelings are your feelings I'm so sorry that they did that to you you deserved better, but you also deserve to stop hurting Those are both true and only one of them is in your control. I love you