Replying to @user4403013943825 Wanting accountability for systemic injustice is not the same thing as celebrating when others suffer. One is about justice. The other is about revenge. My family was interned. I live with the consequences of that generational trauma every day. And I would never look at someone else being oppressed and think "good, now you know how it feels." Because that doesn't undo what happened to my family. It just creates more people carrying the same wound. The idea that suffering builds empathy is a lie we tell ourselves to make sense of senseless pain. Suffering builds trauma. Empathy is a choice you make despite it. You can acknowledge that Black Americans have faced centuries of systemic violence and injustice AND refuse to celebrate when that violence finds new targets. Those positions aren't contradictory. They're both rooted in the belief that human suffering is wrong. Period. Regardless of who's experiencing it. If the system is broken for everyone, the answer isn't to make sure everyone gets equally broken. It's to leave the system entirely. 🆘🇺🇸
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A few Americans have really lost the plot on what they think of humanity and how they treat humanity. This woman commented on a post where I was using a lot of data to back up my struggles with the Portuguese immigration system and how it was very frustrating in my situation and a lot of other people's situations to be dealing with Portuguese bureaucracy at the moment. And she has the audacity to tell me that as a black American, she loves that a white American in her perception is feeling the struggles of changing bureaucracy and changing rules. But let me correct her because as a Japanese American, that would be similar to me saying, I love seeing people put into internment camps because my struggle deserves to be inflicted on other people. And I fear that that loss of humanity is really what is happening across the masses. And I don't know that people would say these things to one another in real life, hey, my people had been harmed in the past. And so I want to inflict that harm on you personally. But on the internet, it's so easy for somebody to say, we have been wronged and therefore I want you to personally be wronged. But I don't feel that way about humanity. I want good for people. And just because my people have been harmed, which by the way, I still have living family members who were interned by the United States government. And yet I do not, of course, as a person who has humanity left, do not want that inflicted on anyone else despite if we agree or disagree on anything. So I do suggest that if you are choosing to stay in the United States, decide to move forward collectively instead of being out for vengeance. You have no gripes with me personally or even my people. We didn't cause any of the harm. And harm has been caused to us.
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