trust me when I say that ik it’s harder than it sounds, but it is possible w/ a lil effort

Here's how to stop loving someone based on neuroscience by someone who likes to study at neuroscience for fun. The thing is, we can't necessarily stop loving someone but what we can do is we can rewire our brains to no longer see the person as how we once saw them. The first thing that you can do is you can try to break this loop of receiving dopamine as a result of this person because in your brain you kind of see this person as a reward. If you stop checking old messages and rereading those or looking at their social media or anything that has to do with this person, you're going to stop getting that boost in dopamine and therefore it's going to be easier to detach from that person. Next you want to try to weaken the bond that you have with this person which means a reduction in oxytocin, whether it be stopping physical contact or trying to limit the amount of times that you go to the same places or shared routines or anything like that, trying to avoid replaying memories or anything that reminds you of them in a way where it triggers memories, it triggers that feeling of bonding and whatnot in order to weaken the bond that you have with this person. The thing you can do is contrast the data because in your head you're probably thinking of the idealized version of them or you're thinking about the good memories but there's a reason why that relationship is not working and there's probably some sort of bad memory, some experience where you were hurt as a result of this person, they probably have their flaws so when you remind yourself of that it breaks that idealized version and allows you to use your prefrontal cortex so that way you can see them more clearly. Fourth thing that you can do is replace the neural pathways that you have with this person because we can't just erase them but we can override them. When you go to new places, when you have new hobbies, when you build new routines, when you see new people, that allows you to strengthen new neural pathways and build new neural pathways and override those old ones so the connection that you had with this person isn't as meaningful or valuable because the connections that you have with other people or the new hobbies or anything like that, that's more of your focus. Fifth thing that you can do is breaking the predictive coding cycle that you have of this person because you expect them to be in your life but when you can visualize a life without them positively or you can come up with new goals that have nothing to do with them or anything like that, that will decrease the emotional attachment that you have with this person. With time through synoptic pruning, you're not going to have as much of a connection with this person because those pathways just will not be important to your brain. Lastly, it's to just get better sources of dopamine that will replace the source of dopamine that you had with this person so whether it be hobbies, people, exercise, anything that allows you to be creative, anything that allows you to have those small wins, it's just going to allow you to not necessarily care as much about this person. So yeah, hope that helps.