Handle it The quality of your life depends on the quality of your emotions. #emotion #leadership #highfunctioninganxiety #highperformer #neuroscience

The fastest way to get to power in your life is to decide that you can handle feelings. If you look at overwhelmingly where your life breaks down, overwhelmingly, it breaks down in what you're calling problems and what this typically means that obviously there are extreme cases. I'm not talking about extreme cases. I'm talking about where our life chronically predictably breaks down. It's like this person shouldn't be doing X. That person shouldn't be doing Y. These people should be acting like this. These people aren't validating enough. We're calling these problems, but the real problem actually lies in emotional energy. I'm a neuropsychologist. I'm always talking to you about how your brain is connecting to the field of reality. The real problem is entirely computed in the domain of emotional energy. In other words, the reason that I have a problem that you did that or spoke like that is because I don't like the feelings it generated inside of my own body. It made me feel humiliated. It made me feel stressed. It made me feel rejected. It made me feel misunderstood. Then we spent a tremendous amount of our energy. I don't mean that term metaphorically. I mean, tons of our behaving, our cognition, overworking, over explaining, over analyzing, over engineering to try to get them to change their behavior. If that way works, go right ahead and do it, but for most of us, we're exhausted by this. If you stay with that exhaustion long enough, you start to feel hopeless. I have great news. There is another way. It is profoundly efficient. It is profoundly powerful, and it cannot fail because the laws of neuromchanics are real. And it is my willingness to expand my emotional capacity. To decide that I can, in fact, handle feelings that are hard. And to recognize that the primary mistake has been calling feelings, I dislike dangerous. Power begins when you start to understand the distinction between the dislike of a thing and the danger of a thing.