Bri has had the most interesting evolution of anyone on love is blind. #MentalHealth #therapy #relationshiptips #loveisblind

I think Brea's had the most interesting evolution of anyone on Love is blind this season, so she says she's a high-achieving type A woman who's used to men who out-earn her, out-elfar her, take the lead, right? That's her template. That's what she grew up understanding love looks like. She got that from her dad, and then she meets Connor, sweet, type B, keg in the backyard, Connor, who seems to love her completely and without conditions and doesn't perform dominance for a single second. And her wiring just did not know what to do with that. Then that little turd chris gets in her ear, at the mixer, tells her Connor's too submissive, that she needs someone more dominant, and here's the thing about manipulation, doesn't create out from scratch. It just names a feeling he already had in the worst possible way, so Brea picked up Chris's language and brought it straight to Connor, called him out on his house, his car, his clothes, said she needed someone who could out-elfar her. And Connor just sort of sat there and took it, even said that he'd still marry her tomorrow, so she called off the wedding, and then apparently she spent the next year figuring out how to actually receive what he was offering, learning in her words to soften, to move out of that defensive armored masculine energy she had built up over the years. And then she went on a podcast this week, and when she was watching herself back during the scene where she's just picking apart everything about Connor, she said, "I'm looking at a woman that doesn't even know how to feel loved, you know, and I don't even know how to receive him." Not I was too critical, not I said it wrong, she actually went straight to the root. She's admitting that she had a template for love that didn't leave room for someone who was actually good for her, and had to do real work to unlearn it. And look, they're still not living together, you could read that as a healthy pace, two people who went through something intense, and are taking it slow and doing it right this time, or you could read it as her still not being fully sure, still not quite able to make that final leap, we don't know. But here's what I keep coming back to, at the reunion, Connor had every opportunity to go hard on Chris, to get loud, to get territorial, to perform exactly the kind of dominance breeze said she needed. And he didn't, because that's just not who he is. Maybe that's the thing she's still sitting with, and maybe in a genuinely hope this is it, she's finally starting to recognize that a man who doesn't need to perform strength actually has more of it than anyone she's ever dated.