He didn’t learn love… he learned power. He watched a woman beg for attention, for softness, for basic care— and he grew up thinking that’s how it works. So now he withholds. Goes cold. Makes you chase what should be given freely. That’s not confusion. That’s learned behavior. If you’ve ever felt like you’re begging for the bare minimum… comment “I’m done begging.” #emotionalneglect #toxicrelationships #relationshiptruth #emotionalabuse #detachment
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He watched his mother beg for love and his father ignored her. That was normal to him. So now you're crying and he's calm. You're breaking and he goes to sleep. You're asking for connection and he's irritated. Because to him love isn't emotional, it's functional. If he's there, if he's providing, if he didn't leave, he thinks that that's enough and you're sitting there thinking. Maybe I need to explain better, maybe he'll get it. But, no matter what you try, he doesn't. You're trying to get water from someone who only learned how to survive a drought. And the more you ask, the more he shuts down. Because what you need feels far into him. He wasn't taught this. And what feels far into him, he avoids. Meanwhile, you're running on empty. Stay here. I'm Mama Tones. Follow for more.
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