Respect is not a one way street #trauma #families #narc #narcissist

every toxic family has unspoken rules break them and you'll finally see who they really are rule one don't talk about it ever whatever happened the abuse the favoritism the neglect we don't discuss it especially not outside these walls that's airing dirty laundry translation protecting the abuser is more important than protecting you rule two your feelings are inconvenient you're too sensitive too dramatic making a big deal out of nothing your pain is always an overreaction their behavior that's just how they are guess which one you're expected to change number three respect is a one-way street you owe them respect because they are older than you because they're family because they said so then respecting you that's optional apparently being related means they can say whatever they want and you just take it for forgiveness is mandatory change is optional you have to forgive move on let it go family is family but they never actually have to stop accountability apologies growth yeah just keep forgiving the same behavior over and over five loyalty means silence you can't set boundaries you can't say no you can't protect yourself because that's betrayal that's turning your back on family the truth these aren't rules their control tactics and the moment you stop following them you become the villain in a story where you are always the victim follow for more