You keep calling it a “fight”… but why are you the only one walking on eggshells? Why does it escalate so fast? Why does he get loud the second you speak? Why do you end up shaking… and then blaming yourself? That’s not normal arguing. That’s emotional abuse. And the reason it’s so confusing? Because it doesn’t happen all the time. Just enough to break you… and then go quiet like nothing happened. If you feel this, comment “eggshells” ⸻ #emotionalabuse #toxicmarriage #toxicrelationship #walkingoneggshells #emotionallyabusive

When your husband yells at you, you already know what's coming. It's not just the yelling. That's what people don't understand. It's everything before it. You can feel it building, a look, a tone, the way he answers you. Short, irritated, off. Even your phone lighting up at night, suddenly he gets an attitude. And you already feel it. That dark, mean look in his eyes. His jaw's tense, teeth clenched. Like he's already decided you did something wrong. So before he even says anything, you're bracing yourself for impact. And after a while, you always have that feeling sitting in your stomach, that tight, heavy ball. Like, what's next? And then it happens. His voice changes, louder, sharper, talking over you. What you're saying doesn't matter. And this is usually when it starts. The words, you're fat, you're ugly. You're fucking stupid. I should have never married you. That feeling, those are unbearable. Like something in you just drops. You swear, this is it, that you're done. But are you? Because somehow it always circles back. It doesn't even matter who's there. He'll scream at you right in front of the kids. Like it's normal. Like it doesn't affect anyone. If you try to stay calm, now you're talking back. If you try to explain now, you're starting an argument. So eventually, you just stop. You don't say much. You don't bring things up. You just push. Because you already know where it's going to go. And here's that part that messes with your head. He'll turn around and say, you made him mad. You made him do it. That you pushed him there. But does that sound right to you? You didn't cause his reaction. You just learned to recognize it before it even starts. Comment, voice, if you've felt this before. And compact for part two. Stay here. I'm Mama Toms. You don't want to miss it.