Let your kids be your reason to move abroad, not your excuse. The chaos in America is not longer just a season of your life, it’s become your life. In the future it will be very easy to explain to your kids why you decided to leave the United States. It will be far harder to explain why you couldn’t find a way to leave. This is especially true if something terrible happens that was entirely predictable. Yes, moving abroad with kids is hard. But, staying in a country increasing dangers is impossible. Don’t keep moving the goal post for what you are willing to put up with. It’s enough trauma. Get on my schedule to create your exit plan. Moving abroad will change your life in all the best ways. #creatorsearchinsights
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Parents tell me all the time that they would move abroad if not for the children, but I moved out of the country with my two children five years ago, and I got to tell you, by far the best decision I ever made. You don't know the stress that you're under because you're in it every day until you're out of it. All the stress that you feel about sending your kids to school and the safety of the United States, it disappears in a way that is so tangible once you leave the United States. There are no fears of shootings at the mall, at school, at the movie theater, at the grocery store, at the concert, at the state fair. There is none of that. There is just peace. If you have children, you are exactly the kind of person I want to help leave the United States. That visceral fear and constant anxiety that you feel does not have to be how it is forever. You can actually rid your body of those things once you have left. It takes a little while to unplug completely where you're not watching out of the corner of your eye to see what's going on, but once you can get to the place where you're fully present in your new life, it is the best thing that you could do for your children. It's better than any school that you could pick. It's better than any after school activity that you could pick. It's better than any amount of present parenting that you can do. Leaving the country is safety in more ways than I can even tell you. It's safety in the water. It's safety with the food. It's safety with the policies that are happening in your schools and in the neighborhood. I could go on and on. But if you have children, don't let your children be the excuse of why you don't leave the United States. Let them be the reason. Parents say all the time they would die for their children. What about truly living for them? Live for them enough to be able to leave your comfort zone. Live for them enough to do the hard thing. Live for them enough to find the solution to move abroad. Instead of just staying and hunkering down and gritting and burying it, while everything's falling apart around you. You have that choice. You can make an active choice to do something different and leave abroad. I know that's very grandiose and very dramatic. But it is so dramatic when it has to do with your children. When it has to do with their safety and well-being and their rights and their ability to thrive, all of that is your responsibility as a parent. And you have total control.
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