a strong stance but i swear by it #radicalromance #innerlover #selflovejourney #somatichealing

Until your body is at the center of your love life, you are always going to be unsatisfied. You're always going to be wondering, "Is this really enough for me? Is this really what I want?" Or you're worse going to be calculating from the outside and you're going to be looking at what other people have or what society told you to want or what your parents want for you or whatever. And you're going to be reverse calculating how to get what you think you're supposed to have. But when your body is at the center of your love life, you can feel what is your yes and what is your no. You can feel what lights you up, what gets you excited. You can actually feel that and so you can move towards it, you can make space in your life for more of it. When your body is at the center of your love life, you can actually use your voice, your real voice, your embodied voice. And you can ask for what you want, you can say no to the things you don't want, you can ask for what you need. And you can learn how to regulate yourself, how to self-regulate, how to co-regulate, how to be an interdependent person. But when your body is not at the center of your love life, you're just operating off of subconscious patterning. And most of that is like imprints that our body holds from the past that created belief systems and identities that we just play out in perpetuity. And so until your body is really in its rightful place on the throne of your life in the center of the altar of your life, where you have moved through all of the conditioning that tells you it's selfish or self-centered to take care of yourself, to love yourself, to move from the inside out, clear all that, clear all that shame, clear all that noise, clear all that baggage, and when you actually inhabit, take up residence in your body, wake up grateful, wake up grateful. Wow. You know, and you let your body lead, and you let your body tell you, and you can move through the world I swear, the thing that's shifted for me most of all from this is recognizing that I can actually be present. I don't have to worry about anything in the future. Why? Because I trust my body. I actually trust my body's capacity to navigate complexity, to have a great capacity of emotional and sensational resilience that I can like move through whatever terrain might arise in the future. And because of that, I don't have to be like projecting into my future, controlling it, worrying about it, solving it, I don't have to do that. And so I actually can land, and arrive in the present moment. And that's where real pleasure happens, and pleasure is not frivolous. Pleasure is foundational. Pleasure is this indicator that your body actually feels safe, and that you can actually be intact to your soul, your essence, your real nectar of your flavor of being. Pleasure is that, and so until your body is at the center of your love life, you're always going to be a little off-kilter, you're always going to be a couple of degrees off. Hot take, strong opinion, lived experience, so do that what you will.