Replying to @ChristiansDiscriminatedMe The ability to justify initial thoughts is so uniquely human. Every other species will learn from new information and pivot behavior accordingly. Humans however, dig their heels in and claim to be right, even in the face of overwhelming evidence. It’s sad that Americans are being faced with the crossroads of needing to choose to stay in chaos or leave to find peace. As I always say, it’s a lot of mental gymnastics going on to rationalize why they are staying in the United States. “Faced with a choice between changing one’s mind and proving there is no need to do so, almost everyone gets busy with the proof.” - J.K. Galbraith 🆘🇺🇸 #TikTokEncyclopediaContest
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My comment section reads like a bunch of teenagers arguing with their parents because they know best. As I read through my comment section, I find that most people in there are arguing with me. And I love this quote from an economist that says, "Based with the choice between changing one's mind and proving there's no need to do so, almost everyone gets busy with the proof." And that's what's happening in my comment section. There are people who are researching all these answers and just coming up with AI fluff from random articles. And instead of thinking about why my post is triggering them and making them feel like they need to prove why they're stain put in the United States, they instead tell me, "I've researched the flights there and they're too expensive." I found out that groceries there are too expensive. I found this one article about a crime that occurred in 2019. And that must mean that the country is a war zone. And none of these things individually mean that a place is not a good place to move. But the broader picture isn't that you're arguing about that individual place, not being a good place to move. The bigger picture is really that you are convincing yourself that your decision to stay is the right one. If you don't know me yet, I'm Veronica. And five years ago, I took my family of four out of the United States, and we've lived on three different continents so that I can take all of the knowledge we've learned about making mistakes, living somewhere that wasn't right for us, and bottled it up to put out here on the internet for you. The problem that you're having, you are digging in to find reasons why not to live in individual places. It's not the moving abroad that's impossible. It's the changing your mindset that feels impossible. That's why you go search out the proof, the proof that it's too unsafe, the proof that it's too expensive, the proof that it's unrealistic. The real thing that's going on is that you are more committed to the story of how you are stuck in the United States than you are to finding a solution for where you could actually go. And that's where my expertise comes in, is I have global visa options. Out of the hundreds of visa options that I have in my database, one of them will be right for you. You don't need every country to work. You just need one. One of those can lead to change. One of those will inspire you to take action. But until then, stop convincing yourself that your decision to stay is right and validating it by all this proof It's not really proof at all.
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Replying to @user4403013943825 Wanting accountability for systemic injustice is not the same thing as celebrating when others suffer. One is about justice. The other is about revenge. My family was interned. I live with the consequences of that generational trauma every day. And I would never look at someone else being oppressed and think "good, now you know how it feels." Because that doesn't undo what happened to my family. It just creates more people carrying the same wound. The idea that suffering builds empathy is a lie we tell ourselves to make sense of senseless pain. Suffering builds trauma. Empathy is a choice you make despite it. You can acknowledge that Black Americans have faced centuries of systemic violence and injustice AND refuse to celebrate when that violence finds new targets. Those positions aren't contradictory. They're both rooted in the belief that human suffering is wrong. Period. Regardless of who's experiencing it. If the system is broken for everyone, the answer isn't to make sure everyone gets equally broken. It's to leave the system entirely. 🆘🇺🇸
True. And here's how you'll know it's happening. They'll start with gentle concern. "Are you sure this is the right time?" "What about your career?" "Have you really thought this through?" When that doesn't work, they'll escalate to guilt. "You're abandoning us." "What about the grandkids?" "We won't be able to see you." Then they'll try fear. "What if something happens to you over there?" "You don't even speak the language." "America is still the safest country in the world." And finally, when none of that stops you, they'll make it personal. "You're being selfish." "You've changed." "You're making a huge mistake." None of this is about your wellbeing. It's about their discomfort with your choice. The test is simple. Do they ask questions to understand your plan? Or do they just list reasons why it won't work? Supportive people ask questions. Threatened people create obstacles. Ready to move forward anyway? Link in bio for exit plan consultations. 🆘🇺🇸
You don't actually need anyone's permission to move abroad. Not your parents. Not your friends. Not your coworkers. Not even your spouse if they're using guilt instead of having real conversations. But you keep waiting for them to be okay with it. You keep trying to make them understand. You keep softening your plans so they feel less threatening. Meanwhile, you're still stuck. Still unhappy. Still living a life designed around everyone else's comfort except your own. Here's what changed for me. I stopped asking for approval and started making announcements. I'm moving in six weeks. Here's the plan. You can support me or you can process your feelings on your own time. But I'm going. The people who loved me figured it out. The people who didn't were never going to be happy for me anyway. Your freedom matters more than their comfort. Act like it. Ready to build your exit plan? Link in bio. 🆘🇺🇸
The reason you keep "researching" instead of applying for a visa is because research feels safe. As long as you're still learning, you don't have to make the scary calls. You don't have to tell your boss. You don't have to face your family's reaction. You don't have to sell your stuff or figure out what to do with your car. Research is comfortable. Execution is nerve wracking. But here's what nobody tells you. The nerves lasts about 6 weeks. Then you're on the other side and you wonder why you waited so long. The fantasy lasted years and got you nowhere. The tension lasts weeks and gets you everything. If you're ready to trade comfortable fantasy for uncomfortable action, I'll help you figure out the logistics. Link in bio for exit plan consultations. 🆘🇺🇸