Crabs pull each other back into the bucket because evolution wired them for group survival. If one escapes, the rest might die. Humans do the same thing. But we don't actually need the group to survive anymore. We just think we do. Your family isn't trying to destroy you. They're trying to protect themselves from the discomfort of watching you leave the safety of the known. Because if you can leave and survive, it means they could too. And if they could but didn't, that means they chose this. And choosing this means accepting responsibility for their own stuck situation. That's terrifying for them. So instead of sitting with that discomfort, they pull you back. They disguise their fear as love. They call your courage reckless and their stagnation reasonable. And if you let them, they'll convince you that staying stuck together is safer than climbing out alone. But it's not. It's just more comfortable for them. You can love your family and still refuse to drown with them. Those aren't contradictory positions. Link in bio if you're ready to stop shrinking yourself to make others comfortable. ๐๐บ๐ธ #creatorsearchinsights
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When you will tell your friends and family that you're moving abroad, it's very common for them to react negatively to that information. They will call you crazy or selfish or reckless. They might try to highlight all the great things about the United States that you would be leaving behind. They might try to call out the new place that you've chosen and show you all the problems with that place, how dangerous it is, how some particular thing about that place is very problematic. And they're doing all of this because they are exhibiting the crab mentality. The crab mentality is the same way that crabs act when they have been caught in a trap. When crabs are caught, they're caught in a bucket. Essentially, the crab falls down into the bucket because there's food in there and so they just get tricked and they fall into the bucket. And once enough crabs fall into the bucket, there is a way for one or two crabs to start to maneuver up the backs of the other crabs and basically make a human pyramid so that they can escape the bucket. But the problem is, and this is where the crab mentality comes in, the problem is the other crabs will not stand for it. The other crabs do not want that crab to leave their dire situation. So if a crab starts crawling up the backs of all these other crabs who are currently trapped in the crab bucket, they will actually pull that crab down and kill it so that it does not escape the trap that they are all in because misery loves company. So if your family reacts in this way where they see you crawling up the backs and trying to make something of yourself get out of the trap of the United States, they can react in the same way that the crab does by trying to kill your spirit and convince you not to go do the thing that you want to do. If 2026 is the area that you're going to move abroad, I've got a group coaching program linked in my bio right now to give you the entire roadmap so that you can have a smooth transition to living abroad. Your announcement that you're going to move abroad and start an exciting new life calls into attention that person's own limitations. It shows them that people of their standing could do the thing that you're about to do, but they aren't ready to confront that they won't do what is required to have a big bold, exciting, adventurous life like you want to have. If you don't know me yet, I'm Veronica. And five years ago, I said goodbye to my friends and family when I took my husband and my two daughters out of the United States for good. And there was definitely some ruffled feathers. There was people telling me about safety concerns and how irresponsible I was being and how much they'll miss me, which I desperately miss them as well. But the value of my life has to extend beyond my individual relationships with people and really center around the safety of my own daughters that I brought into this world. So I decided to do the big, bold step of getting them to a safe country. And whatever the reason that you want to leave the United States, you do not have to stifle that reason to appease the individual people who have gripes with you wanting to live that big, bold life.
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The life you've built in America isn't the life you wanted. It's the life you could scrape together under constraints of: wages that don't cover basics, healthcare tied to employment, housing costs consuming half your income, constant financial stress, survival mode as default state. You didn't choose misery. You chose best option available within impossible constraints. But those constraints are geographic. Change geography, change constraints, change what's possible. The apartment you can barely afford in America becomes the nice place with breathing room abroad. The paycheck that barely covers survival in America becomes the income that allows saving abroad. The constant stress about one emergency destroying you financially becomes manageable situation where emergencies are expensive but not catastrophic. Same income. Same skills. Same person. Different location. Completely different life. You're not stuck because you lack resources. You're stuck because resources you have don't work in location you're in. Move those resources to location where they work better, and you're not stuck anymore. But moving requires: tolerating uncertainty about how things will work out, being uncomfortable while figuring out new systems, releasing familiar patterns even when familiar is miserable, trusting you can build better life from scratch. Most people choose familiar misery over unfamiliar uncertainty. Devil you know feels safer than devil you don't, even when devil you know is grinding you down. This is why people stay in: jobs they hate, relationships that don't work, locations that don't serve them, lives that feel like slow suffocation. Because at least they know how to survive current misery. Unknown is terrifying even when unknown might be better. But what if you're not choosing between misery and uncertainty? What if you're choosing between: familiar misery that will continue indefinitely, or temporary uncertainty that leads to actually building life you want? When you're in survival mode, you're making choices based on: what's cheapest, what's fastest, what gets you through next month, what keeps crisis at bay. Not what you actually want. What you can manage given constraints. Those choices compound into life that doesn't reflect your preferences. Reflects what you could piece together while drowning. But when you move somewhere your income works better, you're not in survival mode anymore. You have breathing room to choose based on: what you actually want, what serves your family, what creates life you're proud of. That's not small difference. That's the difference between life you're enduring and life you're choosing. Living in America isn't default you're stuck with. It's choice you're making every day by not choosing differently. And choosing differently is available to you. Link in bio for people ready to choose. What would you choose if survival wasn't consuming all your energy? ๐๐บ๐ธ