Crabs pull each other back into the bucket because evolution wired them for group survival. If one escapes, the rest might die. Humans do the same thing. But we don't actually need the group to survive anymore. We just think we do. Your family isn't trying to destroy you. They're trying to protect themselves from the discomfort of watching you leave the safety of the known. Because if you can leave and survive, it means they could too. And if they could but didn't, that means they chose this. And choosing this means accepting responsibility for their own stuck situation. That's terrifying for them. So instead of sitting with that discomfort, they pull you back. They disguise their fear as love. They call your courage reckless and their stagnation reasonable. And if you let them, they'll convince you that staying stuck together is safer than climbing out alone. But it's not. It's just more comfortable for them. You can love your family and still refuse to drown with them. Those aren't contradictory positions. Link in bio if you're ready to stop shrinking yourself to make others comfortable. 🆘🇺🇸 #creatorsearchinsights
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When you will tell your friends and family that you're moving abroad, it's very common for them to react negatively to that information. They will call you crazy or selfish or reckless. They might try to highlight all the great things about the United States that you would be leaving behind. They might try to call out the new place that you've chosen and show you all the problems with that place, how dangerous it is, how some particular thing about that place is very problematic. And they're doing all of this because they are exhibiting the crab mentality. The crab mentality is the same way that crabs act when they have been caught in a trap. When crabs are caught, they're caught in a bucket. Essentially, the crab falls down into the bucket because there's food in there and so they just get tricked and they fall into the bucket. And once enough crabs fall into the bucket, there is a way for one or two crabs to start to maneuver up the backs of the other crabs and basically make a human pyramid so that they can escape the bucket. But the problem is, and this is where the crab mentality comes in, the problem is the other crabs will not stand for it. The other crabs do not want that crab to leave their dire situation. So if a crab starts crawling up the backs of all these other crabs who are currently trapped in the crab bucket, they will actually pull that crab down and kill it so that it does not escape the trap that they are all in because misery loves company. So if your family reacts in this way where they see you crawling up the backs and trying to make something of yourself get out of the trap of the United States, they can react in the same way that the crab does by trying to kill your spirit and convince you not to go do the thing that you want to do. If 2026 is the area that you're going to move abroad, I've got a group coaching program linked in my bio right now to give you the entire roadmap so that you can have a smooth transition to living abroad. Your announcement that you're going to move abroad and start an exciting new life calls into attention that person's own limitations. It shows them that people of their standing could do the thing that you're about to do, but they aren't ready to confront that they won't do what is required to have a big bold, exciting, adventurous life like you want to have. If you don't know me yet, I'm Veronica. And five years ago, I said goodbye to my friends and family when I took my husband and my two daughters out of the United States for good. And there was definitely some ruffled feathers. There was people telling me about safety concerns and how irresponsible I was being and how much they'll miss me, which I desperately miss them as well. But the value of my life has to extend beyond my individual relationships with people and really center around the safety of my own daughters that I brought into this world. So I decided to do the big, bold step of getting them to a safe country. And whatever the reason that you want to leave the United States, you do not have to stifle that reason to appease the individual people who have gripes with you wanting to live that big, bold life.
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