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Marriage stress in America is mostly just two exhausted people taking their frustration out on each other because they can't take it out on the system crushing them. You're fighting about dishes because you both worked 10 hours, commuted 2 hours, managed the kids' schedules, and now neither of you has anything left to give. That's not a marriage problem. That's a life design problem. And no amount of therapy or communication techniques will fix it when the root issue is that you're both running on empty all the time. Moving abroad didn't make us better at conflict resolution. It removed 80% of the conflicts by giving us time, energy, and margin back. When you're not in constant survival mode, you stop fighting about logistics and start actually enjoying each other again. Link in bio when you're ready to fix the actual problem instead of managing symptoms. ๐Ÿ†˜๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿ‡ธ #CreatorSearchInsights #TikTokCreatorSearchInsightsIncentive

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Moving abroad changed my marriage. I would have said that my husband and I had a pretty good marriage before we moved. But once we did actually move, I could tell that the dynamics shifted because we were both less stressed. In America, there was often little stressors that would happen where it's like, oh, you didn't do the dishes or you didn't do the laundry or oh, I need your help doing this thing, but they're too busy. And so there would be little logistical things about our life that would cause stress in our marriage. And the fact of the matter is, I do not care if he does the dishes or does the laundry. I just want the dishes or the laundry to get done. It's not like I'm trying to impose bullshit chores on him. We just argued about things because we were put in these positions of needing to do these certain things because of the way our life was set up. We live abroad, we both work from home. We work together in the same office so that we're doing things together throughout the day, the dishes and the laundry without that stress. It's not like we're both coming home at the end of the day and we need a rush to get the things done. We just do that at a more leisurely pace because everything about our day is designed together. We're such a team now. We get the kids ready for school together, we go to the gym together, we come home and have breakfast together and then we sit down and we work and we work all day and sprinkle in chores and have fun and that has all made our marriage so much better. We're such a better team and we don't begrudge each other anything now that we live abroad. And that was not an obvious thing that I could have anticipated about our move abroad before it happened. Now that we've done this for five years, I can unequivocally say our marriage is so much better now that we live abroad than it was in the United States. And it's because our life is easier. And when our life is easier, there's nothing to fight about. We're just happy and we're having fun and we're doing the mundane but we're doing them together and in not a way where we add each other's throats like we used to be. You are having little logistical problems in your marriage. I'm not saying that moving abroad is gonna fix everything but it definitely can fix a lot of the stressors that you're taking out on each other just because of the situation you're in in the United States. The survival mentality that happens there because you're constantly having to grind in order to just have the life that you have. When you set up a life that's just easier, you both get along so much freaking better. If you don't know me, I'm Veronica. And five years ago, we made this decision together to move abroad and now my family of four has lived on three different continents. And I help Americans figure out where you can go which visas will take you and what your preferences are matched with the different programs that exist. I help you figure that out. And the links to work with me are in my bio.

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