Replying to @rackelsreading "I can't" is the language of victimhood. "I won't" is the language of choice. And the difference matters more than you think. When you say "I can't leave my family," you're telling yourself you're trapped. Powerless. At the mercy of other people's needs and expectations. That's not true. And deep down, you know it's not true. You CAN leave. You just won't. Because you're choosing family proximity over personal happiness. That's a valid choice. But it IS a choice. And when you misframe choice as helplessness, you create resentment. Toward your family for "making" you stay. Toward yourself for being "too weak" to leave. Toward America for being miserable. None of that resentment is justified because nobody is forcing you to stay. You're forcing yourself to stay based on expectations you haven't questioned. If you're going to stay, OWN it. Choose it fully. Stop pretending you're a victim of circumstances you're actually creating. Or leave. And accept that disappointing people who love you is part of building the life you actually want. But stop living in the in-between where you blame everyone else for a decision you're making. Link in bio when you're ready to own your choice. ๐๐บ๐ธ
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Moving abroad can be extremely complicated because of all the dynamics that you've set up for yourself in the United States. Now, this commenter said that she can't leave her family. And what I want people to understand about the way that they've set up their life in the United States is all the things that are in your life are things that you are choosing to be in your life. Now, you can say all day long, "I can't do this, I have to do this, I'm supposed to do this." But the reality is you are choosing to do those things. And if you don't want to do those things, you can choose not to do those things. Now, will those choices always be easy? Absolutely not. Sometimes they'll be socially unacceptable. Sometimes those choices will be browned on by your family. Sometimes you will feel guilty about some of the choices that you make. But the reality is it is very damaging to your psyche to constantly tell yourself that you can't do things that you want to do. If, in fact, you are going to decide to stay in America, which this commenter says that she's miserable in America, if you are going to stay in America, which I do not fault anyone for making that choice, I want you to reframe it as a choice. Because that's what it is. You're choosing to stay in America because of your family. And if that makes you miserable, that's a really hard dynamic to hold in your brain, those two competing ideas. I am choosing this even though I'm miserable. And that's a choice you're going to have to grapple with if you're willing to stay in America even though you are miserable, or if you will make a different choice. But the fact of the matter is I have family that I love and cherish that is still in the United States. And it breaks my heart that they have chosen to stay there while I have chosen to move abroad. But we all have to make our own choices that we can live with that are going to be good for us in the long term. For my personal family, the family that I created, the man I married, and the children I decided to have for our family, it was more important to get to safety than it was to fulfill family, not even obligations, but family expectations of how we would stay with them over there in the United States. It was more important to me to get my kids to safety than it was to fulfill the arbitrary expectations of the people that I love.
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