The mental and emotional adjustment of moving your family abroad gets talked about way less than the logistics, but it’s just as important to understand what you’re walking into beyond visa paperwork and cost of living calculators. Most content about moving abroad focuses on: how to get visa, how much money you need, which countries to consider, what documents to gather. All essential. But nobody talks about the social and emotional reality of being American parent raising kids outside America. That silence means people relocate with logistical preparation but zero emotional preparation for dynamics that will absolutely come up. Then they’re blindsided by things that are completely normal parts of expat experience but feel shocking when you encounter them unprepared. This is why some people move abroad and thrive while others move abroad and struggle despite having same resources and opportunities. Not because circumstances are different. Because emotional preparation and realistic expectations matter as much as financial preparation. The families who succeed long-term aren’t the ones who had the easiest transition. They’re the ones who understood that moving abroad solves some problems and creates different problems, and different problems in safer cheaper calmer environment are still better than original problems in America. But if you’re expecting move abroad to be universally easier, universally better, universally positive experience where everything is improvement - you’ll be disappointed when you encounter the nuanced reality. Moving abroad as American mom in current political climate is objectively better choice for your family’s safety, financial stability, mental health, and your kids’ futures. That’s true regardless of emotional adjustments required. But being better choice doesn’t mean being easy choice. It means trade-offs are worth it. Problems you encounter abroad are more manageable than problems you’re escaping in America. Nobody talks about the unspoken rules because they’re uncomfortable to acknowledge. Easier to focus on logistics than emotional reality. But going in with eyes open to both helps you navigate the human element that comes with international relocation. Watch video for the things nobody tells you but you need to know before you go. Link in bio for moving abroad with realistic expectations and preparation for both logistics and emotions. What do you wish someone had told you before you moved? 🆘🇺🇸
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Here are some unspoken rules about being an expat living in another country that I want to shed some light on. Rule number one is that you should never talk bad or degrade the country that you're living in to other people who are from here. Never talk about how cheap it is to live here or how something doesn't live up to your expectations because it comes off as really ungrateful when they are allowing you to live in this country and you should be just hush about any negativity that you have about the country or trying to make it seem like the country is, you know, not up to American standards because of how inexpensive it is or what it just comes off as real tacky when you do that. Number two is that other expats are not automatic friends. Just because you're both originally from the United States does not mean that you're going to have anything in common. People move out of the United States for all different kinds of reasons. So you might think, oh, everyone's going to be on my vibe. The anti-Trump train, just because I'm living abroad, that is actually not the case. And so sometimes you need to understand what kind of distance you need to keep from certain expats because they are just not the kinds of people that you would even think would be living in another country. They should be right back there in deep red territory because that's where they would fit better. Number three is that you'll grieve America without ever wanting to go back because what you're grieving is the idea of America, what you wanted America to be. You're not actually grieving what it is. You're grieving the idealistic version of it and that's okay. You can grieve the things that you wish could have been, that's totally normal, but you're still going to be deeply in a place where you're like, I'm so glad I'm freaking out. Number four is that your parenting will be judged differently because you're being judged by two entirely different cultures. You're being judged by the other expat parents who are siding your decisions and you're being judged by the local parents that you end up communicating with and they're kind of like, wow, I'm really shocked that she does it that way. So don't get too in the weeds about it. You know what is best for you and your family and the judgment, you can just kind of put your blinders on and focus on what's going to work for you in your situation. Number five is that the people back home are going to talk about you and it's not always going to be good. So don't expect everyone to put you up on a pedestal for deciding to move abroad because some people think that it was a bad choice. Some people are judging you, which really means they're judging themselves, but they are letting it be vocally obvious to people you used to hang out with that that was a poor choice that you have made to move abroad. They're telling them that you abandoned America, that it was so dumb that you left the United States because it's the only place that you can be successful and raise happy kids and all this other nonsense that's totally defense mechanisms. But just realize that you will be the subject of conversation and some of it will be good, but it will also be bad and be prepared to brace yourself and just shut it off. Don't worry about it because other people's opinions of you are none of your business. Move made your choice and you live your happy calm, free life abroad and they're still stuck in America. So those are five things about being an expat that nobody told me before I moved abroad and I just thought you might want to know before you move abroad. I'm Veronica and I left the United States five years ago. Now I help other American families to do the same. I help you with logistics, but I also help you with the mental preparation that it's going to take to become a family that lives abroad. If you want to work with me one on one, the link to work with me is in my bio. It's called exit plan consultation and I can walk you through 217 different visa options that will allow you to leave the United States for good.
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