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American moms know things are bad. They're not blind. They're not stupid. They see school shooting statistics. They see healthcare bankruptcies. They see their kids practicing hiding from gunmen. They see the data. They know the reality. But knowing and acting are completely different things. Because acting requires admitting that all the things you've been told about how you're supposed to live - stay close to family, stability above all else, American schools are best, raising kids here builds character - might be lies designed to keep you compliant. Easier to keep believing lies while managing anxiety than confront that you're keeping your kids somewhere actively harming them because leaving feels too hard. The cognitive dissonance is real. You watch your kids do active shooter drills and tell yourself it's teaching resilience. You see news about another school shooting and tell yourself your district is safe. You feel constant baseline fear and tell yourself that's just motherhood. None of that is normal motherhood. That's American motherhood. And you've been conditioned to accept it as unavoidable reality instead of specific circumstance you could change by changing location. The moms who moved their families abroad aren't braver. They just hit point where staying felt more dangerous than leaving. Where keeping kids in America to maintain family proximity or avoid judgment felt more selfish than relocating them to safety. You're waiting for perfect time, perfect plan, perfect circumstances. You're waiting to feel ready. You're waiting for guarantee it'll work out. You're waiting for permission from people who will never give it. Meanwhile your kids are getting older in environment you know isn't serving them. Every year you wait is another year they're absorbing trauma you have power to prevent. The things you've been told about why you should stay - family, stability, American excellence, duty to fix broken country - sound noble until you examine whether they're actually serving your children or just keeping you stuck. Link in bio for moms ready to trust their judgment over societal expectations. What are you supposed to believe that you actually disagree with? ๐Ÿ†˜๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿ‡ธ

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Here are eight things I will never agree with as a mom who moved her family abroad five years ago. Number one is that moving away is running away. Moving away is self-preservation through and through. It is not running away. You don't owe America anything. Number two is that kids need stability more than they need safety. Full disagree. Safety is stability. And furthermore, stability is not a concept that is that important these days. In fact, flexibility is more important growing up in this era than stability ever could be. Number three is that you should stay close to your family no matter what. I do not agree that proximity to family is what creates meaningful relationships. You can create meaningful relationships with people no matter where you are on the globe if you choose to do so. Number four is that American schools are the best so we need to keep our kids there. Data shows the exact opposite. So anyone continuously repeating the lie that American schools are superior is just indoctrinated with the American mindset of American exceptionalism and the rest of the world sees right through that. Number five is that it's selfish to take our kids abroad. But in reality, I think it's more selfish to keep our kids in the United States just because it's more comfortable and it's easier for us because we don't have to learn new things or do hard things. That would be selfish. Number six is that you should wait until some arbitrary age to move your kids abroad. People tell me all the time I'll do it when my kids are older. But you should do it as soon as you realize it needs to be done. The sooner the better. There is no perfect age to move your kids abroad but there is the wrong age which is after trauma happens to them. So might as well do it earlier rather than later. Number seven is that raising kids in America teaches resilience and they should have resilience. But I do not believe the trauma that we put them through equals resilience. And honestly, I don't care if they don't have that kind of resilience as they grow up. I want them to have a soft life, a calm life, a free life and none of that is happening for American children. And number eight is that we owe America to stay and fix it. Disagree. I have put in so many years of fighting, volunteering, protesting, donating, being on campaigns even and none of it had any effect because we are worse off now than the day that I was born. So I think I owe my kids safety. I do not think I owe America a fight that isn't my fight to have. There is other places in this world where they do not have to have that fight and I will relentlessly take my kids to those places. If you're an American mom realizing that the American experiment is no longer for you, I can help you get out of there. I work with families to help them figure out where they can move abroad. I've got 217 different visa programs in my database and I match you based on where will take you to create an exit plan that is specifically for you. If you're ready to leave, the link to work with me is in my bio.

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