You’re not just living this… they’re learning it. Every time he cuts you off. Every time he talks down to you. Every time you swallow it to “keep the peace.” They see it. They memorize it. And one day… they repeat it. Stop worrying about losing him. Start thinking about what this is teaching them. #whenamanhatesyou #toxicmarriage #relationshiptruth #emotionalabuseawareness #marriagetok

If he hates you, don't be scared to lose him. Be terrified, your kids will copy him. Stop being scared of losing a man who doesn't even like you. He's scared of what your kids are already picking up. Because they don't miss a beat. They hear the sarcasm from the other room. They see the look he gives you when you start talking. They watch you pause mid-sentence, because you already know how he's about to respond. That part right there, they feel that too. And here's what you should really be scared of. It doesn't stay with you. It moves through them. Your son starts testing you. Same tone, same little smirk. Seeing how far he can go, just like his father. Your daughter though, she stops asking for things, stops talking as much. Starts thinking love means being quiet, so nobody gets irritated with her. And one day, your son grows into a man who talks to a woman like that. Or your daughter chooses a man like that. It's not by accident, because it feels familiar, because it feels like home. You say you're staying for the kids, but they're not being protected. They're being trained. Trained, that love sounds like tension, like short answers, like a woman explaining herself while a man looks at her like she's annoying. So stop asking how to keep them and start asking, what your kids are learning from him, because they're not listening to what you say. They're watching, what you tolerate. Watch how he talks to you in front of them next time. Don't react, just watch. Then come back and tell me exactly what you saw. Stay here. I'm Mama Tones. Follow for more.