A father who plays the victim isn’t always hurt. Sometimes he’s just hiding what he did to the mother. And when he uses the child to look innocent, that is not fatherhood. That is manipulation in a dad costume. #toxicfather #coparentingtruth #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #mamatones

A father who plays the victim isn't a good father. He's a manipulator in a dad's costume. He knows exactly what he's doing. He knows when he lies. He knows when he twists the words. He knows when he makes the mother look crazy. He knows he uses the kids to punish her. He knows he just does it anyway. Even when the person getting hurt is his own flesh and blood. His child, because making the mother look bad matters more to him than protecting his kids. It's not love. It's not family. That's control. And listen to me carefully. If you treat the mother of your child badly, you can't convince me you're a good person. I don't think you're a good man. I don't think you're a good father. I don't even think you're a good friend. I definitely don't think you're a good human being. Because when you treat the mother badly, you're teaching your child what love is supposed to look like. You're teaching them blame. You're teaching them disrespect. You're teaching them that hurting a woman is more normal as long as you smile in public. And people love saying he's such a good father, just a bad husband. Well, that's a fucking lie. If you blame, control, punish, shame, destroy the mother of your child, you're not a good father. At best, you're an okay father. And still, a bad fucking husband. Be honest. Did your kids see more than you thought they did? Drop it in the comments below. Share this with a friend that needs it. Stay here. I'm Mama Tones. Follow for more.