I cashed out the college fund my husband uses for golf #viral #storytime #aita #unitedstates #Usa

I cashed out the college fund my husband uses for golf, so my daughter Luisa is 15. When she was born, my mom gave us $5,000 to start a college account for her, and I've been putting in $200 a month ever since. My husband ever had always said he'd match it, but he never really did, so I just kept doing it myself. It's the one thing I've never skipped. Not when the car died, not when I was on unpaid leave. I figured that money wasn't ours, it was hers. Ever it got into golf like three years ago. At first, it was a Saturday thing with work friends. Then it was a membership at a club 40 minutes from us. Then new clubs, a second set of clubs, a trip to Scottsdale with the guys. I asked him how he was paying for all of it, and he said bonuses. He does sales, so I didn't think too hard about it. Last month, Luisa came home with a flyer about a summer program at the state university. Two weeks on campus, like $1,800. She said, "I know it's a lot, but I looked it up and you can use college savings for it." I said, "Sure, I'd check the account." So I logged in that night. The balance was $3,100. It should have been over $40,000. I refreshed like four times. I thought it got hacked. Then I clicked the transaction history. With draws going back two and a half years, $2,000, $5,000, $3,200. I sat there matching dates. The $4,800 was the week of Scottsdale. The $3,200 was two days before the new irons showed up in the garage. There was even a $900 one that lined up with a guy's weekend I packed his bag for. He was on the account because we opened it together. I never checked it because I never had a reason to. I didn't say anything that night. He came to bed around 11pm and asked if I was okay and I said I was tired. The next morning, I called the company. I asked what it would take to close the account and move the balance. The lady said either owner could do it. There'd be a penalty on the earnings and it'd take about five business days. I said do it. She asked if I wanted to open a new one. I said yes, my name only, and send me the beneficiary paperwork. I also called my mom. I told her everything. She was quiet for a long time and then she said do you want me to come over when you tell him? I said no. I said I wasn't going to tell him. I opened the new account that afternoon. Set up the transfer for my paycheck instead of the joint account. Then I went to the bank and moved part of my direct deposit too. Not all of it, just enough. Ever it didn't notice anything for about a week. There's a member guest tournament at his club in October and he'd been talking about it non-stop. The buy-in is $1200 and apparently he needed a new driver for it. One day he came home, tossed his keys on the counter and said, "The 509 site is down or something. My login doesn't work." I said, "Huh, weird." He said he'd call them tomorrow. Thursday he called them from the driveway. I watched him through the window pacing. He came in and his face was red. He said they said the account was closed. Did you close it? I said, "Yeah." He said, "Why would you do that?" That's Luis's money. I said, "Is it?" He just looked at me. I pulled the transaction history up on my laptop. I'd printed it too. But the screen felt better. I said Scottsdale. The irons. The membership renewal. The guys weekend. $37,000 ever it. Out of her college fund. He said, "I was going to put it back. I've been putting it back. I said show me one deposit, one. He couldn't." He said it wasn't like I was making it sound. That it was his money too that were married. I said, "Then you won't mind that I moved what's left somewhere you can't reach." He said, "You can't just do that." I said, "You did it 14 times." I did it once. He asked where the money was. I said in an account with my name on it. And Luis's name on it. He said, "What about the tournament?" I said, "What about it?" He said, "The buy-in was due Friday." I said, "Then I guess you'll have to use your bonuses." He said, "I was being vindictive." I said, "Louisa asked me Tuesday if she could go to that summer program." I told her, "Yes, that's the only thing I've decided so far. He went out to the garage. I heard him moving the golf bags around like he was going to do something with him and then he just stopped." He listed his second set of clubs on Facebook Marketplace this morning. The first set is still in the garage.