Why Single Mothers Struggle to Raise Sons (and even daughters) #psychology #SelfImprovement #mindset

The first one is that some mothers are too afraid to discipline their kids or tell the kids the reality in order to make their lives easier. And so even when there's a two parent household, what happens is the mother sometimes I notice is much more lenient on her son or her daughter because she doesn't want to hurt her kids feelings. So she's like really easy with the child, but what happens is a lot of times the father might balance that he might be more hard on the kid, right? And because of that, the child is able to have a balance between what's safe and comfortable or where they need to start stepping up. But if the father is not there, sometimes what happens is the mother is either too afraid to discipline their kid or they over discipline to try and overcompensate for the lack of the other parent. And this creates a complex, complex relationship with the son and how he views himself, how he views his peers and how he views his identity, particularly his masculine perspective or like his identity as a man, this might not be as prominent with daughters because her identity is still going to correlate a little bit with her mother because they're both the same gender in society. Sometimes that works like social society, not social society, social psychology, sorry, I'm a little bit all over the place today. I had a pretty busy day. A lot of times gender roles influence how we view ourselves and our identity, but if you have a one mother and you don't know your father, you don't have that connection with him and your man, you're kind of missing that identity that you would pick up from your father. And that's why this one won't happen as much with daughters. The next one is son struggle to find a role model because they don't have a father that they either respect or who's there and or they're not close. May their father has rejected him to some extent emotionally. And so he struggles to find role models and these role models come in a lot of different patterns. His role model might be his mother to which he becomes a little bit different from his other peers who grew up with their role model as their father. Right. And this can happen with women as well. And it kind of makes for a unique individual. I'm a person who I think some of you guys know that I'm more of like what people would call like a daddy's girl. And you can probably tell by my mannerism and how I talk. If you watch a lot of my videos, you can probably tell I'm a little bit different than the average female in terms of peers. Of course, I have some similarities, but there are some differences and a lot of that is because probably me and my dad are close. But also when we were growing up, he had a lot of expectations for me that he didn't have with other daughters. And so that probably shifted the way I grew up and became right. That's just it's not that thing, but it's just true. And sons, if you don't have a role model, you might do that same thing that I did with my dad with your mom. It's that you don't have a dad, right. I had a mom and a dad. And so you might not have that balance. And so sometimes what happens is you might be interested in hobbies that other boys might reject you for or you might not understand how to emotionally express yourself. That's acceptable in society. And so you feel rejected as a man. And that can be very harmful and hurtful. And this can make it even more harder because then what happens is sometimes these men resent their mothers because they feel like they can't get girlfriends or make friends with other people or can't join sports or whatever it is because they feel like that. Complex relationship is affecting him. The next one is sometimes mothers. Actually, this one's a really important one.