Signs a Woman Is Insecure! #Relationship #psychology #dating

Now, the next one is something that I'm kind of having trouble wording. When I was writing my notes, I just, I wasn't entirely sure how to write it. But I guess the, the, what I landed on was phishing for reactions or trying to elicit or gain a reaction out of somebody. And so an example that I, because I'm not trying to say a negative perspective, it's almost like she's trying to see if you agree with something. So she might say, everyone thinks I look like, I don't know, some celebrity, whatever it is. And then she's trying to see if you're going to say that or she might say, um, it could be another version. All my ex-boyfriends were, you know, abusive or whatever it is. She might be wanting sympathy from you. Oh my god, these guys are so bad, whatever it is, any sort of reaction. And sometimes you can think about this in another way. What if she's trying to make you jealous? So maybe you, I don't know, she likes you and she's trying to get some attention from you. And she's not, you know, she doesn't feel like you like her. She might be trying to get you jealous to see if you like her back. And so some sort of phishing for a reaction. And why is this sign of insecurities? Because most people who are secure, if they're uncomfortable or confused about something, they typically are fine with asking for clarification. Even if that results in rejection for whatever reason, people who are secure are able to regulate and not take that personally. People who are insecure, they are, they take rejection much more personally. So it hurts them more. And so they avoid that by doing these indirect means and you're seeing that with this. The next one is suspicion without evidence. This is coming from a lot of trauma, history of whatever it is, but individuals who are insecure, they tend to have more trauma, but I'm just sharing information, any sort of suspicion. She might think you're cheating on her that you'll be dishonest. Maybe she feels like it's, it's, this is warranted with her looking through your phone or things like that. And you know, boundaries should be set, but this is a sign that she is insecure. The next one is that she tends to have a reaction that seems out of proportion to what it is that is being discussed or whatever is bothering her. Example could be like reading, like, I have a friend who does this. And I'm not saying she's insecure. And I'm also not saying she's secure. I'm just giving an example where she like reads really deep into the text and tries to like read the tone of it. Like, gosh, I'm not really good at explaining this. It's like she, she might have a message and she might say and show it to me and be like, what do you think he means by that? And it's like literally like one sentence. And it's really just not like there's nothing more to it, but like she's like reading more deep into it. Does that make sense? So like she's making things maybe a little bit more exaggerate or blown up than it may be and then it could be small things. Like, let's say, for example, this woman she's coming over to your house. She's urine, like, you're tired. You had a long day and then she takes that really far. You guys get into a fight about it just because you were like a little bit flat or low in your mood. Things like that. Whereas another individual will ask you, you know, is there something? Is there something I did? Do you want me to go? Are you uncomfortable or I imagine you had a long days or something I can do? That's a little bit more normal than just taking it and just taking away a proportion and starting a fight about that, if that makes sense. And the next one is that she always needs to be in a relationship or she has multiple individuals always around her, texting multiple people to kind of feel that void that she feels. And unfortunately, of course, this does come from trauma, but this leads to this individual having imbalances within relationships. Because if you're with so many people all the time and it's hard for you to really realize what a healthy relationship is and she might sabotage healthy relationships because of this. So I hope this video is helpful to somebody. Please like, subscribe. I'll see you in the next one.