Signs a Man Is Insecure. #psychology #SelfImprovement #datingadvice

The first one is something we've already talked about to some extent. Self-deprecating humor. Usually, some men do this because they're trying to be more approachable, but there are usually other ways to be more approachable, and them being a little bit comfortable, making themselves the target of their own jokes already says something about them. But sometimes men who are self-deprecating, there's a part of them, not all men are like this, where they're wanting attention or reassurance against that. And so if they make a joke that maybe they're not attractive for whatever reason, sometimes they're trying to listen and hear if anyone disagrees with them to get that reassurance instead of being more comfortable and confident in either asking if that's what they need for whatever reason or believing in themself. And so that's the first one itself, deprecating humor. The next one might not show up all the time. It's a little bit more common interpersonal contexts, particularly romantic contexts, getting defensive easily, especially over small feedback or jokes. If you are a business owner and you've worked with a lot of different types of men, you might know some of them don't take feedback as often. If you are a female and you have a husband or boyfriend and you feel like sometimes he gets defensive, it might be because he's insecure. Also, it depends on how you're saying it as well. You know, you always want to say things in a more palatable way, but this is definitely a common one. And I see this a lot too. My dad owns a business. He has a couple of them and he has a lot of people that he, you know, who works for some of his companies. And he has always told me like there are certain types of people, most of his employees are men based on the types of work that he does. They just tend to have that more specialization. He always mentions like there are certain types of, you know, workers where he knows he can be more open about the feedback and hopes that they can grow others. They don't want to grow. They want to stay exactly where they are. And so sometimes that can be they're just insecure. They don't want to take the feedback and they're too afraid of that. And that's not that's just the way some people are. The next one is a shutdown during conflict or they crash out basically instead of communicating. And so the conflict is so overwhelming that sometimes it makes them feel a type of way. They might feel criticized pretty easily. They might be struggling with what you're saying. And they might get mad at you, crash out, lash out, get mad. They might shut down because it's too much. Of course, this is dependent because if somebody is being very overwhelming, sometimes people don't know what else to do but to shut down or they crash out because they're very overwhelmed. But the main point is instead of communicating insecure men may do this without any communication at all because a lot of times they're not very familiar with their own feelings or they feel insecure about what they're feeling. And so they may react to something they're feeling rather than communicating what's happening. So for example, if you're saying something that's not something that's it's already turning into a conflict and then they start crashing out and they're not communicating what you've actually done. They can pinpoint sometimes because they can't express themselves but other times they might actually be insecure about the situation or they're feeling a type of way because they're overly specific about certain triggers. So if you said something like I wish that you would be more comfortable taking the dishes, you know, out of the dishwasher. I feel like I'm always the one doing it. It's not that big of a deal but it's frustrating because I'm always the one doing it and I wish that you would do it a little bit more often. They might get mad. They might start thinking that you called them messy and lazy even though you didn't. And that's what I mean by insecure. They took something, crashed it out or they shut down completely because they're perceiving you saying something that you're not.