Replying to @charlotte What do you think? #redditstories #redditstorytime #aita #makeupstorytime

I'm either our soul for divorcing my husband ever being a stay-at-home dad. Storytime. So I married my husband Steve around five years ago. We've been dating since high school and we were the definition of like high school sweetheart. One of the things that most attracted me to him was how ambitious and driven he was and his work ethic was just 10 out of 10. Three years into our marriage we had our first baby. We had decided that we would send our baby today care after six months. But when those six months were up Steve just refused to go back to work. His argument was that if I picked up more shifts we'd be able to afford a single income household. And if he stayed home and looked after the baby he'd be saving his money anyway because he wouldn't have to pay for daycare and he said it would be better for the child as well because he'd have a parent at home with them all the time. I was not up for this at all. I really wanted to send our little one to daycare. For so many reasons it's good for their social skills they learn a lot. Another life it was just me working that would include me picking up a load more shifts and in turn I wouldn't get to spend as much time with the baby. Came to the idea that if he was scared of daycare we could work in different shifts and tag team who was gonna stay at home with the baby. He just outright refused that. I was like that doesn't really work for me. His argument was he doesn't want to be like the normal dad and he doesn't want to be the one to go to work. He wants to be the primary care giver and stay at home all the time. One day I come home from work and Steve was supposed to be at work late that night. I come home and I find him sitting on the sofa with baby and I was like what did you get a lot of work early today or he'd quit his job without telling me and then had the audacity to sit me down in front of a chart. Chart depicted how he wanted me to take care of cooking and cleaning on the weekdays whilst he took care of the baby and then on the weekends I would take care of the baby because stay at home dads deserved to have time off as well. We did this for a few months right and the whole dynamic was so deeply upsetting to me. I was absolutely exhausted all the time from working these extra hours and this meant that I wasn't having the quality time I really really wanted with the baby when I was 100% sure that he wasn't going to make any different compromise I just straight up filed for divorce. So they gave us 50/50 custody and I moved straight back in with my parents. My parents are absolutely amazing they helped watch the kids so I can work. My husband is now living paycheck to paycheck is really really struggling. So we offered to let my mom hold the baby whilst he was at work but because of how few Ming he was he refused that and has had rolled the child in daycare anyway which is now costing him even more money. He then asked me to pay for the daycare and I was like no because you can just happily leave the baby with my parent. So of course now my ex and his friends are calling me the asshole here for divorcing him over such a small issue and now that I'm not providing any supports him, they're even more mad. So what do you think come out the asshole hair?