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There's one book that got me out of my own way, if you're an overthinker, stay here. This book did more for me than any book on strategy or leadership. The thing that was holding me back was how I thought about myself and how I thought about my accomplishments. This is going to sound very woo-woo, but I promise that it's not, it's actually based on psychology and research. So the book is called "The Gap and the Gain." I used to always measure myself against perfection, and I did not know that, that means that I was living in the gap. Living in the gap looks like you get an exceed expectations on your performance review, but the thing that you're focused on is the one piece of constructive feedback. You opened LinkedIn and someone that you used to work with just got promoted to VP, they're your age, you're not a VP, so then you spiral for the rest of the day. You finally get that promotion, you've been waiting for for two years, you're happy about it for a day, maybe even a week, and then you're already thinking, "Okay, well how can I get to the next level?" So the book taught me about a concept called "Living in the Gain," and instead of comparing yourself to an ideal, you start to compare yourself to how far you've come. And the people that constantly do this actually live more happy, more successful, and less stressful lives. So if anything that I just said resonates with you, you need to be reading the gap and the gain. My name is Ashley, I'm an executive coach and I help smart people get to where they want to be in their careers. My clients come to me to get to the director level and above. I also write a weekly newsletter called Reframed and you can subscribe for free at the link in my bio.